Your a good guy.
It's OK to be a "good guy"
I'm a "good guy"
Buddy, now that we all know you are a "good guy" you can stop trying to prove it to your STBXW.
IMHO, you need to start looking at her for what she is and not what she WAS my friend.
Your dredging up the "good time" feelings with all this speculation about the future, helping with her credit and basically making this divorce as easy on her as possible.
She may be the mother of your children 2Late but she isn't your "friend".
It just seems to me you are allowing yourself to be her friggin' crutch. She walked all over you in your marriage and now you'll let her walk on you in divorce?
Time for some emotional detachment buddy....
Get her out of your family home
Quit trying to be her "rock"
She chose her path and you are smoothing away every consequence for her actions.
She is the epitome of Cake-Eating and you keep feeding her more
Step back, make her live in the reality she created buddy.
If I were a close personal friend of yours, friends since grade school 2 late, and we started a business together and you find out I stole $100,000 from our business and ruined it, would you be this helpful with me now? If I came to you and said "Hey 2Late, my credit is shot since all this happened with the business, think I could move in with you and you help me fix my credit and pay my living expenses?"
Think about it....you wouldn't do it for me but you'll do the same thing for your wife who ruined a whole heck of a lot more than a business, and this betrayal going to cost you a whole heap more over your lifetime than $100,000....a whole lot more.
Step back and think with your brain, not your heart. I know it's hard for us "good guys" but you have no choice.
Your Friend
RebornMan
