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yes, find an office that is vacant...and/or talk to your unsupportive boss anyway...
we are all here with you....
KNOWING that what you do ....you do for yourself and for your children....
because you have WORTH...and so very much to give...
and quite frankly...if he did kill you.....would you want him to raise those boys??!!!?
let us know...
Dylan
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tired of the cycle??
good.
tired enough to do something about it?
eventually you will be, you know.....tired enough of it, I mean....
keep breathing.....
Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.
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Thanks for starting this thread Dylan and for keeping it close to her other thread. I'm not sure if she'll use this one while she's making her call or stay on the other one. Will you post on her other thread too? So that she knows she has another supporter? Thanks for helping. I'm not very good at this and I wish others who are better at it would help her instead of her being stuck with me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> .
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sorry that was a little scary, I just found this one and it was signed DYLAN which is my oldest son's name. It hit home- hard. I am leaving now but will check in later. I will let you know about the call
KMEJ
3 beautiful sons,and 1 beautiful daughter!
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me....
I guess it is shame on me.
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LOL...
LB, you have NO IDEA how good at this you really are, do you?!?!
Dylan
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now, if only I didn't keep getting logged off, I'd be fine....
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I guess not <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> . You're pretty good yourself--you're the one who got through to her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> . She sounds set on making the call--on this thread, not the other one. I'm going to keep checking throughout the evening. I'll see you on the threads <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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good...KMEJ.....
then pretend it's your eldest son starting a support thread for his mom...because HE would REALLY like to see her happy and healthy...
and he would LOVE to not ever catch dad hitting and belittling mom....cause that's just not a good example to follow....
Dylan
not sorry for this name one bit.....whatever helps to motivate you, darlin'.....it's good for me...
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(((((((((((kmej))))))))))))))
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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thanks for the support, and a special thank you to Dylan for signing his name. I took it as a sign from God that it was something I needed to do for my wonderful sweet caring little men who I want to stay that way. The call was actually rather comforting. It made me realize I was not losing my mind, the woman I spoke with was so friendly and understanding and helpful- she knew pretty much what I was going to tell her before I said it. That was when I realized that what he is doing is normal.....for an abuser. It was very sad. The lady did say that some men can change without a Order of protection. She wanted me to know about the counseling and other services they provided. I think it is time I make some time for me. Maybe it will help me get stronger, and help my H realize it.....maybe
KMEJ
3 beautiful sons,and 1 beautiful daughter!
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LOL...
LB, you have NO IDEA how good at this you really are, do you?!?! Yes LB. Ditto. I thought you were terrific. You deserve a big pat on the back! Miker
I was the BS - 36
She was the WS - 36, PA with MM
DS8, DD13, DD15 - All living with Dad
DDay 05/04, Divorced 08/05
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no complaints here. How are you tonight Miker?
KMEJ
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no complaints here. How are you tonight Miker? To be perfectly honest I had an absolutely terrible day.... Problems at the office, was then late picking my kids from the day care, I'm starting to get a cold... Yuck! I'm just glad I get to go to bed and start over all fresh tomorrow! I'm really glad you made the call... I think its probably the first step to the new K. Good luck! And there is nothing wrong with seeing the cup half full! Miker
I was the BS - 36
She was the WS - 36, PA with MM
DS8, DD13, DD15 - All living with Dad
DDay 05/04, Divorced 08/05
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I wrote this once, no idea where it went...hmmm
I am sorry your day was so hard Miker. The sun will come up tomorrow, and you get to start anew- I hope the day goes better for you. You will be in my thoughts. Sweet dreams
KMEJ
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KMEJ, dunno if I've ever posted to you, but I read. You have so much help here, I really have nothing to add, just that you have no business staying with a person who frightens you. Don't wait for him to change his behavior. It's terribly dangerous for you and it's screwing up your children, badly.
You did well today. You've only begun.
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KMEJ, I haven't posted to you yet, either, but I think you're being so brave! I wanted to add my name to your list of supporters.
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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you already know I'm here to talk to whenever. Sorry I missed chatting with you but I had to run to the grocery store, I had forgotten some things for DD's lunch. {{{{{K}}}}, good job today.
me31
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DD H's ONS june'04
H left Aug11'04
found out about OW aug14'04
H came home Dec28
1st recovery started in Feb 05
Apr. 8 continued contact discovered ow and i confront Wh, H chooses marriage
Am I a fool?
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KMEJ - I just caught up on the latest turn of events in your life. I must admit I found the tone of some posters a bit too enthusiastic - like they're watching a soap opera! I'm sure your heart is pumping, your blood racing and you are scared [censored]. But the step you took in making that call was so brave. I hope you get the advice and encouragement you need to help you during these troubled times. You really have an army of supporters here and all we want is to know that we will never open a thread from you again where you have been pushed, choked, verbally abused ... You have made us care what happens to you by being so open and honest. You really do deserve better. TT
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I'm so glad you made the call K...and you will be too
Eye-opening wasn't it?
Eye-opening when she ALREADY KNEW what you were going through.
The abusers script is like the WS script in that they all do and say basically the same things.
Good Luck to you and your boys.
RebornMan
"Who are you" said the Caterpillar
This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation.
Alice replied, rather shyly, "I--I hardly know, sir, just at present...At least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then."
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Yes rebornman it was eye opening, it was scary. I would tell her what he would say or do, and she said yes that is typical. She said she did not want to down play the situation, she just wanted me to know that I was not alone (unfortunently) and that they know how to help. It was very encourageing.
TT- thanks.
KMEJ
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