Dear Upperhand:
I saw your post on the "how to define and EA" (and I actually posted to you there, but then realized you might never see it).

You and I sound much the same (husbands had EA) and I just wondered how you were doing. I've just joined this website, but could have really used it about three months ago when I found out about his relationship. Since then I have continually flipped between being clingy or practicing major lovebusters.

And he is still distant, he says because he can't trust me because one minute I am loving, the next psychotic. I think he is in the withdrawal or ambivalent stage. I am just trying right now to be respectful of him, but keep my distance. And then I get mad because he is the one that had the EA, and I'm the one that seems like the bad guy (but I'm trying to pray these feelings through now instead of letting him know about them).

Anyway, I am just curious as to how you are doing in this process. It is scary how similar the emotions etc. are to a physical affair!