Of course I couldn't sleep last night. I will get through it though. Keeping true to dual personality, stbx was friendly enough at dd birthday party last night, but called at 11pm complaining that things are not moving fast enough and that I'm not doing enough. Whatever. Yuck.

cyllanlisa,

Good luck today, I hope it's not too hard on you. Sounds like your stbx is a bit on the emotional side too. It's probably not very MB like, but sometimes I allow myself to take a little solace in the fact that my stbx is WAY more of a mess right now than I am. Maybe you should allow yourself a little bit of that today.

By the way, can you tell me what this court date is for? I was just curious as I have been told by my attorney that we will have just one day in court and everything will get resolved. I have seen a lot of people here that have several court dates before it's all done and I was wondering why the difference. God Bless.

starman

Chin up dear lady, Starman is right...at times like this it is sometimes better to remember who is the one truly messed up here.

Not that it makes it all go away but it can take the edge off.

It will get better and honestly, once the papers were signed and I walked out of that courthouse it felt like the weight of the world lifted off my shoulders if only for a bit. All the garbage you've been holding onto can be let go of...it isn't your concern anymore...very relieving.

TO Starman....
My D only took an hour, I let my attorney handle the arguing, she never got one and that was that. I got all I wanted and more. See, the WXW thinks she is so smart (don't they all) that she could just walk in, make her demands, and that would be the end of it. The Judge, however, rode her like a horse that's on it's way to the glue factory(not very gently if you get my drift).

Anyway some D's take longer because you have one side filing motions, extended discovery, custody issues, financial entanglements and so on. Ours was simple because I was getting custody (no way was she going for that) she was going to pay maintanence (she wasn't getting out of it for various reasons) I saddled her with the old bills (mainly because she caused them) got the house, furnishings, and made her sell our new car we just paid cash for 2 months before her infidelity (about 10G in my pocket), 401K money, and I get to use her income for Social Security if it works in my favor, and I got my manhood and self respect back (yeah, I got the jar that she was keeping my private parts in too....lol)

SHe's a smart one alright...lol

It didn't all go my way...she did get a couple things...

Her clothes
Her pictures from childhood
An unemployed MOM (who she supports as well)
The derision of family, friends, and children

So she's broke, no family, crappy place to live, unemployed MOM (who's still married 14 months later)

Seems like a good deal....to me anyway

RebornMan

Sorry for the threadjack

No prob on the threadjack. I've read WAY more than I've posted on this site, and I cannot tell you how helpful it has been. I am not alone.

As for court, we met with a family court clerk to go over all the paperwork, etc. It was fairly non-eventful as we have pretty much agreed on everything. We even waived the final court appearance, so I expect that as soon as the paperwork is typed up, it'll be scheduled and finalized.

I don't know, I cried on the drive back. But you are both right, he is way more screwed up than I am. I'm not feeling anything right now, I guess that's ok, too.