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I received an email this morning from the husband of a friend (he copied a ton of other people on the email as well) where he exposed his wife's (my friend) affair and he said that she had brought home a STD to him from this affair. From the email I could tell that he is extremely angry.
I have not responded to the mail or called the house. What would be the most appropriate way to respond. I know that she is probably deeply humiliated and embarrassed by this, but I also feel for him because I know what he is feeling and how hurt he is right at this time. They have been married for a long time and they are two beautiful people that have a nice family. Apparently something is deeply wrong...
I have not responded because I really don't know what to say to either one of them.
Please advice!
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e-mail both of them this website
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You could let them both know about this site.
Other than that, just be there for them.
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That is a grand idea....
good advice,
E-mail them both this site to get something started.
No need to say anything else, just be a comfort, you know there going to need it
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When you send them the location of this site, include an introduction such as this:
"An affair is devastating to almost everyone involved. It's one of the most painful experiences that the jilted spouse will ever be forced to endure, and it is also very painful for the children. Friends and members of the extended family are usually hurt as well. But what most people don't realize is that the unfaithful spouse and the lover are also hurt by the experience. The good news is that in the wake of an affair, divorce does not have to be automatic. Marital recovery from affairs is very common and when successful, usually results in having a better marriage than either spouse dreamed possible."
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Ditto to all of the above. Perhaps you could make it a reply to all. I'm sure everybody who received the email is thinking "What the heck do I say?" This would be supportive and empathyic.
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Perhaps you could make it a reply to all. Brilliant!! WAT
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