i found out my wife has feeling for someone shes known for awhile at work. i even know him.about 6 weeks ago i knew something was wrong. i found out and confronted both of them. they said no more. but 2 weeks later i knew she was still taking to him. she tells me she can't stop and know she is doing wrong in her mind but her heart says something else. we've been married for six years. have a five year old that ours and a 12 year old from her previous marraige. this guy has a kid and his wife is pregant. she says i'm pushing her away the more i pressure her to stop. she said one time that she wants to try and resolve our marriage. thing that bothered here before about me. ihave changed and she says she likes the man i am now. she said they haven't slept together. i believe her about 95%. we are together all the time. i said i; ok as long as they only talk at work. but she want ride to work with me anymore or go to lunch with me. we work across the street from one another. so i think they might be talking outside of work a little before and after work. maybe 20 minutes. she says no but i do not believe her. what do i do? i'm committed to my marraige and want this to work. how do i give her space?

DW, you'r wife is at leats in an EA ( emotional affair). Many of th actions and words you report of yoru W here indicate an affair IME.

You need to be calm.

You need knowledge. Have you read 'suriving an affair' ? At leats study the documents in the main portion of this site, so that you can learn the dynamics of affairs and how you can influence events by changing yourself and exposing the affair.

Space is about the last thing she needs from you right now. Space to enjoy her affair and submit herself to the addiction of it yet further.

Study Plan A hard and effect the required behaviours.

have faith MB plan A has worked form any people in bad situations includng me ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Also read the Toolkit for new BS . it may help you.

Don't panic, you can fix this. Be calm and study.

All blessings