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I'm really sad about this <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> coz I thought the title was due for a remodel...... whaaaaaaaaaa <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Hello, hello, hello! Long time no hear! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Dare we ask what the new title would have been, if it could have been? Or is it better not to know? As far as I'm concerned,, even though the title <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />'d my eyes out on stalks the first time I saw it, over time I've gotten rather fond of the feminine hygiene products label, and I think I would have missed it if it had gone away.

There definitely isn't another title like it at MB, that's for sure! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Hope Neaksis is better

Can't say for sure. Didn't hear any massive explosions across the lake last night. If not better this morning, at least wiser!! Now she knows not to eat raw gluten! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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Sorry I was "out" last night,

Why? I just hope you had a good time. For MY good time, I had the satisfaction of being right to a Dr. at my new job that dislikes me because I'm "new," although in an older sort of way. He gives all the new people a hard time, but that doesn't make me like it any better. He's got this whole macho thing going, and I wasn't subservient enough, especially when I told him (in answer to his complaint that I hadn't put the under-buttocks drape under his pt. FOR HIM before delivery) that I was used to physicians who were slightly more self-sufficient than that!! So when I told him the pt. looked like she had a placental abruption, he ignored me and didn't do anything about it but keep her monitored to make sure the baby was "OK." With abruptions, women have contractions in waves like the tide coming in...so the pt. delivered during the night a lot faster than most first-timers do. When the baby came out, followed by a cascade of bloody amniotic fluid, he did have the grace to say, "Well, I guess she DID have an abruption." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> No, really?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

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BTW, I told you WH never said much and even less about the A, so don't think that HP can't surprise you!

I'm not trying to say he's immune to temptation. Who is? But really, the effort of socializing and courting and being "on" instead of lying in bed in front of the TV all evening just makes it seem less likely than other things. I could see him wringing my neck easier than I could see him put so much of himself into wooing anybody ever again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Unfoertunately he seems to like that. Go figure!


Can't. Gave up trying to figure out men. They're written in some kind of code, I think, and I haven't cracked it yet.

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Look to the top of THIS post....

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> LOL until I coughed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

You've been over visiting Sally's Plandemonium, haven't you? That was quite a little party she had going for awhile, then apparently everybody got cybersnookered and went to sleep, and I was left, sober and alone, to deal with the bleeding pt.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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but heartened by your general tolerance of me all the same.

I'm not tolerating anybody. I like everybody who posts on this site. You all brighten up my life considerably with your humor, your interest, your presence. Ergo, I LIKE you--apparently enough that that doofy Graycloud said we were <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> "flirting" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> a few weeks ago on your own thread. If I could tolerate your response to him that (paraphrasing) this was impossible because I was too old for you, I can certainly tolerate anything else! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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says a lot about your character.


If my character were all that great, I wouldn't even have hinted about it. Now THAT would be true nobility. But it was so hard to tell the Sad Saga of OtherSusan the Stupid without some mention of it, and in the end I said enough to try and make it make at least a little sense.

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I don't even begin to imagine that I could teach you anything about anything.

Is there a polite way to say this? Probably not. Oh, well. Don't be silly. The wisest people in the world are those who can learn something from anybody and everybody, NOT the people who think they can't be taught, or don't need it. So of course you could teach me. Well, except for one thing,anyway. I do know that you can't teach me anything about home maintenance and roofing that I can't learn from the men in my own family! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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I certainly didn't intend to say (and don't believe) that you, all on your own, turned HP into the great clam, while sparing TSYTWY from some awful personality-disgiguring transformation.

Thanks. I'm relieved to hear it.

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I realize that I'm still not able to clearly express what troubles me about your attitude toward HP and TSYTWY. If it comes to me, I'll post it.

There's REALLY something that troubles you about it? Sorry to hear that. Maybe it will resolve itself by the end of the Saga. Or maybe it will take you 30+ years, like it did me, to come to grips with the whole thing. That would be excessive, though, I think! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Well, if you think of it let me know. Maybe it's something that I need to consider, too. Although I hope not. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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I titled this particular post with my creation, so all ya'll could enjoy it ....

Well at least I answered my own question about how much attention people pay to the title changes on the different threads. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> My excuse for asking a question this morning that had already been answered was that I'd been up all night, and was so tired I had to nap by the side of the road for a few minutes so I could finish the drive home. What's theirs? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

t&l, having been sprinkled with fairy dust and sand (the Sandman and Tinkerbell got in a BIG fight overhead a few minutes ago), is off to sleep at last! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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t&l,

I'm befuddled here....WHO are you talking to in your 11:41 am post?

I got lost somehow - and it seems important to know. I'll try to go back and see....but in the meantime if you're still awake if you're so inclined - just TELL me!

Edited to add - it was AD right?

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Well, mine says 9:41, but I can't get the clock right on this board, so I'm sure that's it, and it was AD. And yes, I'm still awake. Went into online banking and stopped by MB on my way to the logout click............ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Neak's got mice. Can you spare a trap? Somebody needs to kill my mouse so I can get some sleep!!

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I'm waiting unitl the saga is over too. Not for the story - good read though it is, but for the insight it gives. Still missing a few peices of the puzzle, but it's taking shape.

Hope all your family is well and happy today. Clam included.

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If I could tolerate your response to him that (paraphrasing) this was impossible because I was too old for you, I can certainly tolerate anything else! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Oh why do I bother trying to be diplomatic!? LOL.

You really got me laughing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Look, I coulda said that my present wife (for 8 more days) is a half-year younger than your younger daughter, but that would also have been a pugelistic circumnavigation of the diminutive woody (but presidential) vegetation.

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I don't even begin to imagine that I could teach you anything about anything.

Is there a polite way to say this? Probably not. Oh, well.

Now don't get the wrong idea here. The futility of me teaching you anything, derives from the fact that that my small collection of bits of wisdom is but a tiny subset of that which you already possess, and not on any other possible explanation, LOL.

More seriouly, wisdom comes from taking action, making mistakes and learning from them. I have lived a mostly quiet and relatively inactive life - having fewer wisdomogenitive opportunites.

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Oh, well. Don't be silly. The wisest people in the world are those who can learn something from anybody and everybody, NOT the people who think they can't be taught, or don't need it. So of course you could teach me.

That you, could learn even from an empty-headed dolt (if one happened by), goes without saying. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Well look at that!

8000 Views!

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Well look at that!

8000 Views!

-AD

I know. I'm stunned. Will be on later tonight during my break, I hope. I'm charge nurse tonight and it's been busy up till now, but is beginning to slow down now that we've got the 2 potential C-sections delivered by the more conventional exit! The Kaiser MD was going to section one, but I asked him to give us a little more time so I could go and work with the other nurse and the pt. He said, OK, but I've decided to section her. When he came in to deliver her via the "normal" route, he said, "Would you go push with the other one now, too?" The Magic Wand of Delivery. It doesn't always work, but when you whack 'em with it hard enough, a lot of times it does! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I don't like C-sections. Too stuffy under that mask. So over the years I've become highly motivated to learn how to avoid one wherever possible. Tonight was a good and lucky night.

Back later, especially for YOU, AD. Talking risque on the feminine hygiene products thread, indeed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

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Hope all your family is well and happy today. Clam included. SS

You know, sometimes I wonder if he's EVER happy, or just variations of gray. I think it must be hard to go through life so difficult to please that other people are always disappointing to you with their failures to meet your high expectations. To be so sure of the essential "rightness" of your own position, and so unable to bend, that you spend your lifetime frustrated because everybody else is wrong, and you're right, and they're taking so long to admit it...and they're NEVER going to admit it because you're not always right! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Pant. Pant. I have a friend at work who's that way, and our unit manager is as well. They are always unhappy and frustrated with other people...who insist on doing things the "wrong" way, which individuals are also often ungrateful when kindly "wise ones" give them correction and advice. And they just don't understand why this should be so. Uncomfortable people to be around, but a sad way to live, nevertheless.

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but that would also have been a pugelistic circumnavigation of the diminutive woody (but presidential) vegetation.

My train of thought was so derailed by the <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> of AD being racy on the MB board that I was unable to decipher your wit until Neak explained it to me while I was on the way to work. I'm not sure what it says about HER mind that she was able to figure it out so easily, either! "Diminutive"? TMI, AD, TMI. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />


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More seriouly, wisdom comes from taking action, making mistakes and learning from them. I have lived a mostly quiet and relatively inactive life - having fewer wisdomogenitive opportunites.

So basically you're saying that my wisdomogenetive opportunities have been maximized by a life of perpetual screwups? Master of mistakes? (I was going to say mistress, but it sounded odd.) Baroness of Blunders? Empress of Errors? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> (Just for you, since you like this emoticon so much!) I never! Well, at least not in the last few minutes! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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that you, could learn even from an empty-headed dolt (if one happened by), goes without saying. -AD

I have GOT to get better reading glasses. I thought you said "empty-headed doll," and thought to myself, " <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />? Aren't they all?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I'm glad I made you laugh. As D-day approaches, and most likely after it passes, too, you're going to need some humor to lighten the dark. Laughing doesn't make anybody's problems go away, but it does let you set them aside for a few moments, and sometimes they feel lighter for awhile after you have to pick them back up again. Take care.

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If you read the People magazine featuring Katrina and its aftermath, you won't miss anything if you skip this post. This is the Condensed, Digested Virgin Reader edition anyway (must've met some of Sally's flesh-eating chitons!). I have lots of L&D stories, after all these years, but this one brought tears to my eyes, and made it into my list of Most Difficult Labor Experiences of All Time..

The woman in the story was expecting her second child at any time, and she and her 4-year old son had moved to stay with a friend of hers, also godmother to her child, so that there would be someone to care for him when she went into labor. Katrina struck, and as the apartment building they were in filled with water, and rose towards the 2nd story, she began to have labor pains and realized that she was going to deliver. Her friend and her child were both unable to swim, so she went out a window of the 2nd floor apartment, and while her little boy begged her not to go away and leave him, jumped into the flood waters, and while laboring, swam 3 blocks to a bridge where she could be rescued and taken to a hospital. The magazine has a picture of her with the new baby, and big brother, too, so it had a happy ending to it...but it certainly gave me a view (from a new angle) of all our pampered American mamas, with their special pillows, mood music, birthing balls, doulas, narcotics, epidurals, blankets fresh from the warmer, ice water, blah, blah, blah. There was a woman of genuine, unshakeable determination, and true grit. Mothers are a hardy breed, if they have to be, and she did. And she was.

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T&L - It reminds me of the story of the Australian woman in the Tsunami, who was in the water with a baby and a 5 year old. The waves kept hitting them, and she knew she had to hold the baby who couldn't swim. She pried her 5 year old's fingers loose from her hand, and let him go.

It had a happy ending too. The 5 year old got to a piece of floating furniture.

Just goes to show what we women are made of. All of this infidelity stuff is just a bump in the road.

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Just goes to show what we women are made of. All of this infidelity stuff is just a bump in the road.

And past infidelity, if you look behind you in the road at that flat thing left behind your tracks, you can see just what the bump is made of, too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> We're women. We survive.

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Seems quiet this afternoon.
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T&L's emergency flesh-eating chiton removal service

I'm blowing snot!

Hey t&l! Thought I'd bop on over and what do I see? Brilliant! Jays. So this is where Pepperband hangs..... Pep you avoiding me or WHAT?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Strong women. Yop. My family is x-dominant. I figure my mum is rolling over that I've painted myself into this corner..... Don't go rolling eyes - If she'd only stop rolling and do SOMETHING helpful with that spiritual plane, I'd shut up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

The party is ongoing until I either get a real job! Come on back. Bring friends. And bring some men. I can hardly believe it but I think I might be ready to interact with men a little more again. Albeit virtually!

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P.S. Don't tell me I've got everybody else counting, too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Not only counting, but plumping the pillow, so to speak. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


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