And I have two Canons - both of which are loaded. However, I think you would rather pay me to not shoot you. Then I would have the photos to sell or use as blackmail.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Technically, that's not quite correct. Your mum is walking around with an I-told-everybody-in-the-whole-world-so smile on her face. That's even better!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Your mum and my mom could cut a wide swath, if they ever, God forbid, got together! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Tell you what...you keep yours with you; I'll keep mine over here, and the whole world will be OK. OK? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Ok ..but PLEASE type quietly <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />


Maybe I could divert her attention to my brother? Hes still separated ... a entire work in preparation for her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

oh that smile hurt <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I'm going back to bed to SLEEP

You mean you weren't sleeping when you were last in bed?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I want to resign from my FOO. I think I'll go dark as far as they are concerned. See if they even bother to care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

I doubt it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I don't know when I have ever felt more alone as far as they are concerned. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Thought that my mom's house was to be renovated and that a trust had been set up so that it would be my inheritance, that I would be moving to it this summer. Found out today that, a couple of months ago, they hired contractors and are renovating it to sell. Found this out from BIL who mentioned it in passing when he came over while I was helping Mom work in her basement. No one had told me. NO ONE. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Remember, BIL and my S are not talking to me. Thought my age-related dimentia suffering mother had the job of telling me. Thought she told me months ago. It was a total shock. I cried for hours. I think I will be crying soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

If there were a bus leaving for heaven this afternoon, I would want to be on it........except for my children.:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />:<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Cinderella--I'm so sorry to hear what has happened with your house. My family has sometimes disappointed me, let me down, or just generally yanked my chain (not that it's too hard, you understand! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />), but they've never actually screwed me over. That would be very hard to take and my heart goes out to you. I assume it's all about money...which certainly makes people do some strange things sometimes, even if they're relatives. Maybe especially if they're relatives.

We've just spent some very special days with our precious Gellnjen, who was visiting from Washington now that her stint as a political intern is over, but she left tonight and everybody's down in the dumps because she's gone. Neaksis' oldest got very weepy, although it masqueraded as something else until he had the opportunity to admit that he was sad she went away. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

I found Neak in the bathroom crying tonight, and when I asked her if she wanted to tell me what was wrong, she just said, "My due date." I nearly had a coronary on the spot, because I thought she was telling me about a new due date for another pregnancy, and I was thinking, "I'M NOT BRAVE ENOUGH TO DO THIS AGAIN!!!!!!!!!" But then I realized that it was almost Dillon's due date, and she was talking about the fact that she should've had a new baby about now, not a grave and a headstone 3 towns away.

Has anybody had a good weekend? I don't begrudge it to you at all, but if you're looking for the Happiness Fairy, she's not sprinkling any magic pixie dust on us tonight, that's for sure. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. Cinderella, if you're catching a heavenly conveyance, make them wait for me. I'm coming along, too. My kids can take care of your kids and we'll see them all later.

Did you know it is possible to cry for days over nothing life-threatening?

I have never felt so alone and abandoned by my FOO.

I have never been where Neak is....but I am sorry she is enduring this sadness.

I would be ready to go now if it weren't for my 2 children. At 13 and 15, they aren't ready for me to go.

Let's see...............oh, yeah......our church family is struggling right now. Two of our 5 elders just resigned. Seems we had 2 polarized groups of leaders.....those who were more legally centered and those who were more grace centered. And the legalists resigned. So, our congregation which once numbered around 700 attending on Sunday mornings about 10 years ago and which has been hovering around 350 for several years, is all in a wad right now.

We had a minister resign suddenly because his 18yo son had broken into the building and stolen all the computers. The insurance company issued the ultimatum that charges would have to be pressed since he had broken in several times. About this time, the youth minister's wife left him.

Then we had a 12 month minister search.

They hired someone very quickly at that point and I was sooooooo glad when he resigned (because his wife was upset that they didn't fire the youth minister when he married another woman).

Then they hired a man who, after 3 years or so, was arrested for stealing things from unlocked cars at the gym and selling them on the internet.

Then, 7 months later, they hired another minister who seems to be ok. Everyone seems to love him. and he seems to love us and be well centered.....I think the last 2 were flaky.

But I would love some stability.

It's been a ride.....a wild ride.

And here I am with a mother who can't remember what day it is, my inheritance being sold out from under me......I don't think they are selling the land my sister's husband wants............., two job changes in 6 months, tons of therapy for the children and me, my finances all rough around the all-over.....

Now, when are they announcing the bus???

Get on board little children.................

Prayers for you C. I'ts about your turn for something nice to happen.

Hope the sun shines tomorrow.

SS

{{neak}}

2 years ago, my daughter was quite depressed but it lifted.

21 months ago, she told me she wanted to go live w/ her dad - I stalled for money and because something told me she was trying to run from something but I didn't know what

16 months ago, her dad started pressing me to let her move.

About that time, son's therapist her her knee and gave up her practice.

12 months ago, daughter entered a psychiatric hospital for a week. It was then disclosed my nephew had committed multiple acts of aggravated sexual battery against her.

10 months ago, mom moved and family started planning to renovate her house and I would move into it.

Last spring, son failed 2 classes at school and decision was made that he was so intelligent and demonstrated that he new material but wouldn't put it on test papers or turn in homework so he was to be placed in the next grade provided he entered tutoring for study skills issues.

Through the summer of 2005, I had to pump sister's family for info about nephew for police dept.

Last fall, nephew was charged w/ 5 counts of aggravated sexual battery.

During late fall, daughter announced she didn't want to go live w/ her dad. But, she was back to cutting and therapy intensified.

Son doing well this year but has almost been kicked out of school for fighting when his buttons were pushed to the max.

Nephew pled guilty to one charge and 'in best interest' to another. Got fairly light consequence but it met the needs of my daughter and me. So we were happy. Sister and her family quit talking to us. Totally. Won't even communicate about mother.

Mom still talking about me moving into her house.

Have better relationship w/ x and his wife.

Mom, sister, bil all blame daughter for enticing her older cousin who, to police detective, greatly coroborated my d's story. They think we should have talked as family and worked all this out. If I told everything I knew, my s would divorce her h. And no one would ever speak to me. (Like the time he basically told me it was time for me to have sex w/ him.)

Daughter and son both doing well emotionally (counselor at his school wanted to cut him back to being seen every other week - instead of every week....tutoring going well).

Got promotion in the fall and supervisor and co-workers never worked w/ me to help me do the work...basically just set me loose trying to do it. When I complained, the only thing I was told was to be more proactive and that my manager was a great manager.

Haven't seen the Diplomat (bf) since Thanksgiving because he lives so far away.

Didn't see mother or sister for Christmas. Didn't see mom till several days later.

Cousin's daughter killed in car wreck.

A week later, d's best friend's 13yo cousin drowned.

Took another job w/ same employer just to get out of that hellhole. Maybe more opportunities, maybe not. But couldn't be worse Karma - and it is, indeed better.

I have gained a size or two and my cholesterol is up somewhat.

Church is struggling right now.....

Saturday, went to help mom clean out basement and BIL showed up.....was talking to mom and I said something and he replied that house had to be sold.......

Haven't talked to mom since yesterday afternoon - don't want to.....not yet.....

And all of that is in the last 2 years.

Just call me Hercules.


[color:"purple"] When does the train leave for Heaven? [/color]

Cinders

I am saying a big prayer for you and your kids, and even your sister & her family.

You & the kids have gone through so much in 2 years no wonder you feel defeated and a bit lost right now.

As far as the sale of your mums house I think that stinks. I am not so sure I wouldn't challenge them on this if it was only me, but with kids it is also very difficult and there is so often no winner in such family disputes.

I wish someone could remind them you could have sought some sort of redress on your daughters behalf for pain and suffering. Then to blame the victim? I was reminded of the old style defence lawyers blaming women for getting assaulted because they were female!!

Just remember that you can choose to lead a happy and fulfilling life with your children and even someone new in your life if that is your wish.
If your sister chooses to close her eyes to the truth then you need to allow her too. Unfortunately it will probably hit her in the face one day, it usually does at some time.

You are more then your FOO family Cinders, you are you and have been the rock and foundation of your children, even though some days it appears they dont want to even know you - been there lol - they WILL come to know you & appreciate it all as they grow older.

big hugs [[[[[[Cinders]]]]]]

AW - [ because mum is stealing my log on ] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Has anybody had a good weekend? I don't begrudge it to you at all, but if you're looking for the Happiness Fairy, she's not sprinkling any magic pixie dust on us tonight, that's for sure.

Define Good

It was really nice. None of the kids are in Jail, or the hospital. My W still loves me.

Wish life would slow down a little bit though.

T& L,
When you are quiet, I worry.
How about you? No resolution to any of the many problems?


Neak,
You are quiet too -
Please don't feel you have to respond, but remember people care about you. It's for real.

Neaksis -
I've been wondering if you are shy, or just busy.

I know AW isn't shy.

Hi Believer, hope you are well. I don't feel any bad vibes.

SS

I am still here. Thanks to all for caring.

Talked to my mom today.....decided to talk w/ her on my own. Anyway, seems she was almost as surprised as I was by my bil's announcement. She is feeling, as am I, that she and I may be on the receiving end of a shaft. She is considering an attorney to help her sort it out and block s & bil forcing sale of house. She and I doubt he is considering selling the property bil wants. And she would consider giving me, if he persists, part of the other property thereby denying him any road frontage.

Now to find an attorney.....for my mother.

Tell her not to sign any papers! Unless she's declared incompetent, I don't think they can sell her stuff without her signature. For that matter, it probably not a good idea to talk to anybody they bring around to "visit," either. Who knows who they might be? An "expert" to state that her mental condition requires that she have a conservator of some sort, perhaps? Better paranoid than screwed, I always say. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. For some reason this little snippet of dialogue, in a cartoon commercial, just cracked me up...

"My cereal is sending me a message!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> It says, 'O-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o.'"

"They're Cheerios, you idiot!"

Musician humor. Did you even know there WAS such a thing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

* Since the black keys on a piano are the hardest to learn
if you painted them white would it be easier to learn how to
play the piano?

* How do you know when it's time to tune your bagpipes?

* Was the piano invented just so the musician would have a
place to put his/her beer?

* Is it true that the reason bagpipe players walk while they
play is that they are trying to get away from the noise?

* Do you get A flat minor if you drop a piano down a mine-
shaft?

* What is the difference between a violin and a fiddle?

* Are some instruments in a drum-and-bugle corps purely
cymbolic?

* Do people who play the washboard think of it as playing
an acoustic washing machine?

* Why is a mute called a mute when you can still hear the
music?

* Did you know that the piano we play today was first called
the 'pianoforte'? And that this actually means quietloud?
Doesn't this mean that a small one should be called a piano
while a large one should be called a forte?

* If you buy a set of drums, will there be repercussions?

* Why is Chopsticks one of the easiest songs to play on the
piano, but the hardest thing to eat with?

* How come you always hear about organ donors but there's
nary a mention of piano donors?

* What did bagpipers play before that guy wrote "Amazing
Grace"?

* Can you fiddle with a violin?

It's time for another side trip into the hair products aisle. Let's just say little Valkyrie won't be needing hair ribbons for a while.

Mom, had anyone told you yet? She cut her hair again.

Please, make sure you're sitting down before you view the following link.

We waited till she was asleep, then took pictures of her.

Courtesy of thndrnltning's feminine hygiene products, and hats and scarves aisles.

Neaksis is dying after this.

well I am sure your darling is very cute, however I cant get into yahooie to see it ? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

In any event it is time for you sleepy heads to get up and get ready for your new day as we finish ours here. Well SOME of us finish our days while OTHERS decide to work night shift on the road gangs because they don't know how to retire. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I heard some wonderful lyrics the other day to a song called "Can I trade him in" however one DD sniggered, one laughed, and AW said 'Oh Mother!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I have been reading - [[[[neak & cinders]]]] and catching up which has put me way behind of course. AW managed to bring down two computers within the hour, now thats an achievement isn't it darling? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
I am reliably informed it was the 'motherboard' that failed and caused all the problems.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
Notice how everyone blames a 'mother' even for computer problems???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I couldn't get in either, so I am going to have to do this the non-lazy way.

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Just try that and see if it works now.