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OK, it works now. For some reason that album had been set up as Private. Now it is completely public.


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Poor mija. I think it's time to hit the $100 store for bandanas and pretty scarves.

WHY did she do this? What possessed her?

BTW: A lady I used to work with had twins, a boy and a girl. One day they hid behind her couch and clipper cut both head bald. She said it was okay for the boy child, but she cried buckets over the girl's golden tresses.

So, NS isn't alone in her angst.

The worst I ever did was try to give Barbie a hair cut...so the guys that look here will know, Barbie's hair does NOT grow like everyone else's!

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I got into the first batch of pictures just fine. Does that mean I'm not "public"? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> I'm very conflicted about this, and how we should react to it. On the one hand, there's what Neaksis first suggested, that the DivaDramaQueen wanted attention, got a semi-satisfying amount last week the first time she cut her hair, and was just trying to get some more by doing this. On the other hand, for a little girl so obsessed with beautiful people, etc., it has seemed to me that for a very long time she's gone out of her way to make herself appear unattractive and grungy. Is there someone, or some recurring situation, that has been reactivating her memories of being molested, and her fear of it recurring, and she wants to make herself ugly as a protection? Did starting back to counseling open a festering wound and let some of the ugliness spill out? (Not that I'm suggesting that the counseling should stop...) I also can't escape the feeling that there's a great deal of self-loathing behind this escapade, and that it's similar to the whole cutting/mutilation subset of psychiatric disorders, only without the blood and scars and stuff. This is a very disturbed little girl, and I'm afraid that the hair butchering will progress to something more dangerous and permanent if we don't figure out the right thing and get it done. Scary.

And a happy morning to all of you, too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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well she is still cute even if a bit short on a head of hair for now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I remember AW would not only cut her hair but refused to wear a dress or 'girlie' gear right up until she was 16 1/2 - then she met this young fellow going out with her older sister and decided to reform. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

AW's daughter was the same right up until 18 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

its just a phase Neak, we girls get over it like we do men, oops did I type that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

what we do for the male of the species <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Neak, AW was writing you when she fell asleep - burning the candle at both ends but can you tell her? - you will get a laugh as did I, dont think I was meant to read it actually, but she should know there are no secrets from mum and if I didn't want to not get banned from ever using the computer again I'd post it here, Can you divorce mums? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

However she has got the email thingy ready to send but has not sent it I dont think - I am trying to stay away from that send clicky but I hear it calling me - press me mum, press me !!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I hit save instead, no idea where it would save it but I'm sure AW will <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Time for bed and Mikey needs a cuddle, yes he does Nana says so. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


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Hi Mum, give your girl a hug from me. Do you need my email addy? Lol.


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> she wants to make herself ugly as a protection

I was afraid that might be it.

She looks like my Rebekah....my heart aches for her.

Flare prayer sent up.

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its just a phase Neak, we girls get over it like we do men,

Hi, AW's mum--Actually, I wish it were a phase. If you have the time, and the interest in wading through some mucky waters (but not the Pool of Introspection, thank goodness!), you can look at the Neaksis thread on child molesters and see what has happened to Neaksis' adopted children, and to Neak's biological children, because of the neglect of the adoptees' biological parents, affectionately known as "Ed" (Egg Donor) and "Sped" (Sperm Donor). This hair cutting is an escalation of already-worrisome behavior on this child's part, and it is genuinely scary to me. I wish I had an answer.

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She will be 'protected' for some time to come.

What to do? What to do?


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Maybe it will grow on us............. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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I will say prayers for her.....I think there is a struggle going on.

Fortunately, my daughter is doing soooooooo well...Her skin looks beautiful. Almost no signs of her cutting. NONE!!!

Tonight, I went by and talked to my mom....we were doing ok until she brought up talking about my daughter's sexual abuse. I told her I would talk about it any time she wanted to - she just had to tell me she was ready and I would make the therapist appointment. I maintain we will talk about it when, and only when, she is ready to do so at therapist's office. She went nuts. I told her that I was tired of being blamed - like it was her fault her cousin put some money in her panties and told her she could be his private hooker - when she was something like 12 or 13 and he was 14 or 15. Then I turned around and walked out - slamming her appt door behind me.

I told my daughter about what had happened....she wasn't there.....she said she was proud of me.

Life is just plain old tough.

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{{{{Cinders}}}}

Mom, you might want to get your blushy face emoticons ready. Remember that problem with your tax return?

Well it seems that for whatever reason, the IRS didn't recognize the connection between your eldest son and his, um, social security number.


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OK, lets see if we can cheer everyone up today.



An older lady gets pulled over for speeding...
Older Woman: Is there a problem, Officer?

Officer: Ma'am, you were speeding.

Older Woman: Oh, I see.

Officer: Can I see your license please?

Older Woman: I'd give it to you but I don't have one.

Officer: Don't have one?

Older Woman: Lost it, 4 years ago for drunk driving.

Officer: I see...Can I see your vehicle registration papers please.

Older Woman: I can't do that.

Officer: Why not?

Older Woman: I stole this car.

Officer: Stole it?

Older Woman: Yes, and I killed and hacked up the owner.

Officer: You what?

Older Woman: His body parts are in plastic bags in the trunk if you want to see

The Officer looks at the woman and slowly backs away to his car and calls for back up. Within minutes 5 police cars circle the car. A senior officer slowly approaches the car, clasping his half drawn gun.

Officer 2: Ma'am, could you step out of your vehicle please! The woman steps out of her vehicle.

Older woman: Is there a problem sir?

Officer 2: One of my officers told me that you have

stolen this car and murdered the owner.

Older Woman: Murdered the owner?

Officer 2: Yes, could you please open the trunk

of your car, please.

The woman opens the trunk, revealing nothing but

an empty trunk.

Officer 2: Is this your car, ma'am?

Older Woman: Yes, here are the registration papers.

The officer is quite stunned.

Officer 2: One of my officers claims that you do not have a driving license.

The woman digs into her handbag and pulls out a clutch purse and hands it to the officer.

The officer examines the license. He looks quite puzzled.

Officer 2: Thank you ma'am, one of my officers told me you didn't have a license, that you stole this car, and that you murdered and hacked up the owner.

Older Woman: Bet the liar told you I was speeding, too.



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Neak is well today?


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Well it seems that for whatever reason, the IRS didn't recognize the connection between your eldest son and his, um, social security number.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Well, I was just trying to see if, in spite of his age, I could claim him as a dependent, since he was my very expensive student last year...and he wasn't around to ask for his number, so I, um, I, ah, Imadeoneup. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> And then I forgot all about it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Whoever made the dumb rule that only the Federal government can make Social Security numbers, anyway? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> How arrogant of them. How insular. How narrow-minded. Nit-picking as art. That's what I say. Unless, of course, there's some IRS agent lurking on the thread, <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> in which case I say, "Yes, Sir. My pleasure to slavishly follow your rules, SIR. Thank you for the privilege of working to support you and all your fellows, Sir."

l&t (I'm using a pseudonym this time, as a disguise, so they can't track me down and charge me with felonious mockery!)

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Ah - T&L,
Just the person I wanted to talk to.

Prayers for you.

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Here you go.....some cheer - or something to motivate us to reach new heights of deviousness

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All you need to know about April Fool's Day!

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Ah - T&L, Just the person I wanted to talk to. Prayers for you. SS

Not T&L--l&t! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> You're ruining my disguise. I'm still in hiding and incognito after my public mocking of the IRS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I have to stay out of sight at least until I get my refund. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

What did you want to talk about? Thank you for the prayers. Can't have too many of those. Do you have any to spare for poor, denuded, Valkyrie? She's sorry now that she has a buzz cut. Fat lot of good it does! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> If one of my daughters has time, they can tell the story of my power, as described by my grandchildren...which turns out to be much greater than even I EVER dreamed!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I don't have the time. I've got 2 patients, and 1-1/2 hrs. until the end of the shift, so I'm getting everything up-to-date so that 0708 I can be out of this place like I was shot from a cannon.

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L&T (I got it right)

I sometimes find that disappointing Grandma is WAY worse to my kids than disappointing ME...kwim?

My kids think my mom has a silver lariat around the moon. Seriously. As far as she's concerned she does everything BUT walk on water...and in their eyes she could probably do that...they've just not seen it yet.

To disappoint her would crush them.

I'm glad they didn't know her when I was growing up...lmao! They'd be shocked if they knew.

- Kimmy


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Kimbers !!!!!! ..go to your room young lady <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

Grandma's are PERFECT, well most of us are <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

even when we are not, we are <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

After I read neaksis story about that darling little girl I wanted to really do something evil to some particular people, I'm afraid I am no saint.
I agree ..it may be a phase but you cannot risk that it is only that. Poor angel. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Please give her a extra hug or two just because.

tl ---- oh I mean lt <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> -- are you still enjoying work? I am seriously considering retirement in the next year or two.
I thought I would travel to Europe regardless of grumpy's retirement when you are not having a retirement plan. I could live with Aussies family in Ireland, then my own in Wales & Scotland <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I know I would enjoy freeloading <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />


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