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All I know is he'd better not make more in the morning, cuz we still have enough leftovers for another brekky. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Poor AJ is still fretting about his FOO-trouble, understandably so. I told him what nice sympathy he had gotten here, and even left the page conveniently open so he could see it, but he didn't pay attention to what it was and closed it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

So I think I will send it to him in an email (he leaves in a few hours), as he will really benefit from reading it.

Whoever said his family might be jealous of my family and the close bond (that includes him), would be interested to know that tonight he was wondering the same thing. It wouldn't explain it entirely, but it could have contributed to making it worse.

Oh, and he reminded me what had finally brought him to hang up on his mother in their little conversation the other day. She started to bring up a whole new diatribe about Neaksis, the poor innocent wittle bunny wabbit, and how SHE hadn't made them feel welcome, either.

AJ cut her off, said he would not listen to anything at all about Neaksis, said he loved her (his mother, not Neaksis <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />), and hung up. And told those of us with his cell phone number not to give it to any of the rest of his family. (2 brothers have it, and that is all.)

And that is what I forgot to tell Neaksis the other day when she asked me about it. Imagine how diverted she will be when she finds out that she, personally, was a part of this!

Must go to bed, and leave time for one teeny weeny post on my own thread.


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Families can be strange Neak thats for sure.

Sometimes they can actually resent you being happy and independant.

I've got good news. I got a letter from Aussie!!

I'm reading it slowly.

Very much all over the place and he sounds so tired so that probably accounts for it.

Just having a little sniffle or two <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />


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{{{{{{{{{{{{{AW & the rest of Mum's clan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Neaksis is coming home today!


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Thanks [[[[neak]]]]!!


a big welcome home hug for [[[[[[neaksis]]]]]] hope the trip was great and all worked out ok.

I folded over a part of the letter 'cause <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
and let DD read it and mum of course ..... you can guess who peaked at the folded part <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

I do hope neakbro is getting all in his life together as he seems such a gentle soul. I can see the desire for happiness for him from you all. I'll say a pray for him and neaksis too ... neaksis let see .. nice blue eyed man who wants to commit.
ok any eye colour will do.
maybe I should be careful here, every time I pray for a nice man for someone they turn out to be soldiers <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
ok Lord, EXCEPT soldiers & service men please.

Now no one can blame me if she finds a man in uniform one of these days <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


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(((AW)))

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(((everyone else)))

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Well, Neak, you remember we were talking last night about whether or not something was a coincidence, or maybe I was reading too much into it? Well, it isn't, and I wasn't. Still a mystery why, though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Hello to everyone. I've been working myself to not-quite-death lately and only have time to read. Signed papers on the house loan Friday; should have money by next Monday at the latest. We have 2 years to sell that house before the payments go up by $1000/month, which means we need to get Neaksis' house fixed and sold, Neak moved out, and Neaksis-the-human-whirlwind into Neak's current house to whip it into shape for sale in a timely fashion. Neaksis makes me tired. She has my mother's organizational skills to the nth degree. I'm not sure OK is the best place to move, but it sure looks like we're headed somewhere! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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well tl glad to see you living & breathing and sounding ok as a person whos working so hard can sound <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
OMG I'm sounding as wordy as mum. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

someone shoot me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

mum said to say 'ho' to all, I think she was watching some US tv police show and and has got a wee bit mixed up lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I'll explain it nicely to her when she has really dug herself a nice deep hole heheheheheheh ok I wont be that much a stirrer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

mum has been very very busy sitting with dad through Vietnam vets stuff. Has been a bit hard for her and I was so surprised to learn she said she felt so bitter over the years that dad was so removed emotionally from us all. I guess I've known nothing else & just thought that was dad.
As kids dad was just , well, dad.
I mean I thought his almost embarassed way of showing affection to us kids was just normal for blokes of his era & upbringing. Some of mums stories of the 60's & 70's really didn't make me or my sisters think about the how NOT 60's & &70's dad was/is.
I don't know why I didn't see his behaviour and Aussies behaviour as being so similar. Strange that.
Anyway I think shes learning more than she wants to and is so quiet. That usually means shes sick or upset. I might ask Janie to talk to her, Janie is the oldest and is so calm nothing ever seems to put her out of sorts. (don't you just HATE that lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)
well we shall see what we shall see out of this.
sort of cute to see them quickly letting go of their hands when we watch them come out of the RSL Club though lol pfft:

hey its our national cenus tonight so I had to fill out heaps of stuff on work, childcare, family, etc etc. why?
well apparently its important to know that there were approximately 350,000 more single females aged 18 yrs or older than single males ..what the??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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Finished editing at last, and sent the shortened version along. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Finished editing at last, and sent the shortened version along.

Yaaaaaaaayyyy !!!

Maybe you won't have to answer to "NUTSO" for a while.

Hi Everyone !!!
SS will be gone on business. Should be back online next Monday. Maybe tomorrow morning before we leave if I am caught up on my work.

AW,
it's interresting to read about your Mum, and dad. Real life touches us all, doesn't it.

CINDERELLA -
You still haven't told us why you got upset at the diplomat.
Or if you did, I was asleep that day.
Is this ongoing, or a one time thing?
Come on, spill the beans........

If you already told us, and I missed it, forgive me. I only caught one little sentence about it, and that was incomplete.


T&L gets the cryptic writer award for today.
Well, Neak, you remember we were talking last night about whether or not something was a coincidence, or maybe I was reading too much into it? Well, it isn't, and I wasn't. Still a mystery why, though.

I suspect this DOES NOT concern the dervrish.

T&L,
Has the medicine helped? Are you feeling better?
Does your chewing gum loose it's flavor on the bedpost overnight? Was it really Col. Mustard, in the study, with the lead pipe?

Stay tuned for these, and other answers ......

Now back to T&L.

SS

Oh - and HI CC, the world traveler. Let us know how it's going.


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I said something he disagreed w/. He had different perspective. He spoke to me dictatorially, in a loud manner, and waved his finger in my face - in public.

And do you know what importance this topic will have in the future of our lives....?

It was about Zidane (the French soccer player) and his statement that he was making that day.

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T&L gets the crptic writer award for today.

Yes, I guess I do. In fact, I was so cryptic that Neak didn't know what I was talking about either! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I guess I'm going to have to quit talking to her on my way home from work, first thing in the morning--before the sunshine of comprehension peeks over the horizon of her memory. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

t&l

P.S. Cinderella--this is a diplomat? The world is doomed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

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TNL - It was totally unlike any other behaviour I have seen from him. He was preoccupied - and I was in vacation mode. He was hyper-focused on his goal and I was strolling.

I still haven't talked to him about it.

I've been nursing it for a month.

I guess I will speak up this weekend - right now he is away from home travelling w/ his son, touring colleges. This is not the time to talk about it.

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It was totally unlike any other behaviour I have seen from him.

Either you've finally seen his true self, or he was having a "bad diplomat" day?

What's your take on it?

My W's husband can be out of sorts like that some days. Sometimes I wonder what she sees in him. Glad she hasn't dumped him though.

SS


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You know, I don't think it is his real self - but this is a very long distance relationship. So I don't see his day to day behaviour. It has, though, given me pause to think.

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Hello all from AWSMUM

been away with the faries in the bottom of the garden with grumpy. very surreal for this old chick. Maybe I'll say more when my ol head has got itself around all the things we have talked about.
I may pretend to acknowledge nothing of course
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

aw is over with a bunch of wives whose husbands left today for Afghanistan. About 150 or so more men were sent along with some more SASR.
I cannot but help compare then (Vietnam) with now in some ways. Not as hopeless or meaningless perhaps, though I dare say a mother or widow may disagree. But its what we have and what we face isn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

tl you know now that we just HAVE to know what you were talking about don't you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> of course all the others were just too polite to ask <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
of course only if its for general audiences <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

rella, I would only say that my years have shown me that when you mix some people (men <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />) and sport its like you have entered another world altogether.
They will argue with you, their best mates, kids, boss, you name it, when 'their' team and heroes are challenged - oh and they will ignore you too -
what would you like for dinner? ugg grunt!

of course I know the men on MB would never be like that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

so tell me, how have you all been, whats going on? wheres the good news? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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We may be going on the truck with AJ for a coupla days, if Neaksis is able to keep Grandpa for us. (3 kids and GP in a truck with the 2 of us is 2 much.)

So I am rushing through my chores, which woulda hafta been done anyway.

The cryptic message refers to Mom's concern that someone from here (MB, not the FHP aisle) may not be comfortable speaking to her any more. If that was the case she would feel very badly, as she has enjoyed her conversations with that person very much.

We did not have ootmeal for breakfast. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

This morning Mr. Computer told me with concern that there were "particles" in his urine. I am dying to know what Discovery Channel program brought on that little fit of hypochondriasis. Neaksis, have you been letting him watch "Mystery Diagnosis" again?

Sunshine of comprehension: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />. I had already been up for 1 1/2+ hours when you talked to me. Likely I only had book on the brain, and at least I remembered once you reminded me.

Must run and get ready. Mom, are you off tonight?

Everyone else, if I go I will send messages, kinda sorta e-postcards. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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SS, I just saw I did not yet congratulate you on your new grandchild.

And CC, did you every find your shorts? Or was that sheets? SMML - short term memory loss... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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No, I am not off tonight. What a silly question! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Am I supposed to come by on my way to work? Let me know early so I can plan for it.

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No, we're just plotting the future of the Boy Without a Family.

He will either go on the truck with me, or perhaps stay the night in the backyard. Neaksis said if he was very good, she might consent to share some bedding with him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So it doesn't seem like I am trying to steal the Cryptic Award from Mom, let me just explain that Mr. No-eyebrowswhohaseyebrowsnow is learning the semi-not-too-hard way what it is like to be a foster child. Violence is not acceptable.

Right now Neaksis is in town with my 3 (and Apperbaby, her darling little respite foster baby) and I have her 3.

Oh, it was funny. All the kids had fallen asleep here, including Apper, so she left them and went home to sleep with the pooches she claims are not spoiled, after assuring me that Apper would sleep all night.

So she was probably a little surprised to hear from me at 2:15 am, to ask if his bottle were over here somewhere. Turned out he had chucked it overboard, and it took me a while to find it. But at least she and I were able to share the moment together. *snicker*

To my credit, had I found the bottle easily, I would have resisted the urge to call her.


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Don't take him in the truck with you. That's too much like a reward. Let him be a leperous pariah on his own home turf. Besides, I already explained to Neaksis that since she was sleeping at YOUR house, he wasn't actually coming home, so it didn't count that he'd be in the same house with her.

t&l

P.S. Is he sorry yet? Wait, I take that back. He's sorry all right--I KNOW that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> As in, "What a sorry human being..." What I meant is, is he regretful? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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