tomorrow night's low should be around 12 degrees.

Glad to hear FIL is coming along.

AW, don't worry. I won't rat you - I mean anyone - out.

Todays Dervishism:
"If I go into space, I will eat plain vegetarians."


Personally, I prefer mine boiled with a little salt.

Today's Dervishism:

"This is a Canadian. I mean, a cannibal."

Send your best cough remedy....I'm off to the couch w/ 2 blankets and the codeine cough medicine. I'm thinking I don't know if I can do work in the morning.

Back from the edge of death....well, not death but bad enough.

Tired of doing a monologue here....

This should bring someone out of the woodwork..... A sport to take up in your spare time - with your best friend

Glad you're feeling better Rella, even if no one else is around.

I'm getting ready to go do an interview (!) tonight, how strange it will be to talk in complete sentences...

Yesterday's Dervishism:

"Kimono Dragons"

Such an interesting visual.

Well, last night we had sort of a girls' night out, although we did have to take Neaksis' 2 kids along with us, for lack of an suitable dumping spot. Neak had an interview about her books (and the one she and Neaksis wrote together) at a church about an hr. away. They were amusing during their interview, and entertained me, at least. Then they sold and signed some books and we had cookies and hot cider and lots of polysyllabic, grownup conversation with the people there <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />...plus a 1+ hr. trip each way, which gave us plenty of time to make each other laugh like we used to do before all these pesky little kids started cluttering up our fun time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> And since my husband and her husband (with 3 kids) were all at home, there was nobody to say, "I'm bored. Let's get out of here!" All in all, a lovely evening.

Today we turned back into pumpkins... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Are you yellow, orange, or white.....pumpkins?

I did love the line about the dragons.

My children spent two nights at their dad's so they wouldn't get my germ and so I could rest more. I know the dog was glad to have some better companionship than I have been.

However, I wonder if my children behave like such undisciplined monsters at their dad's. And, if they don't, why oh why do they have to be so ugly to each other here? Don't tell me it's because I don't stay on their case. Seems like all I do is fuss about that stuff. (Vent over.) Maybe they're more afraid of the judgemental, rigid man.

Emphasis on the mental. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Don't worry Rella......... I'm sure they are hard at it pushing daddy's buttons ... its just that they are different from yours <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

I was always the Wicked Witch of the West ... Aussie was the Wizard <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> his excuse was that as he was away so much he didn't want to interfere with 'my' parenting ... cop out or what? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> HIS children were ok .. MINE on the other hand ..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

I'm back home, and still reading.

Don't know what to say though <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

So sorry you have been sick Cinderella. I have something too, and it's not nice. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
(It makes me cough way too much - but at least my ribs are OK.)

I may go home from work early today. I wish I could stay home tomorrow.......... I wonder if I could get away with it??

Good to hear from CC, and AW. Sounds like life goes on. I hope everyone has lots of happy days. Lots and Lots.

SS

What are you blushing for, SS? Neak didn't even mention the really embarrassing stuff! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

t&l

I don't know what I'm blushing for - but I am....

Sometimes I feel so lost on this aisle. But then, you are all so nice to me, so I stick around.

SS

Hi all.

At work, (where I don’t actually do much lately, another story) I am part of a group of 7 “friends” who get together without spouses about once a month. Two of these friends are “happily married”. The last few months, when we got together the subject has been mainly infidelity. One of the “happily marrieds”, the man, admitted to being unfaithful to his wife a few years ago , and she doesn’t know it. Some of the others in the group and especially me, believe that he is now having an affair with another woman in the group, who is not divorced, but has been separated for many years from her H. She has had a BF for 8 years with whom she moved in last year. Five months after they moved in together they split up. Very suspicious.

Just last Friday the other “happily married”, a woman found out her husband has a lover… so I’m trying to apply MB principals to help her. And re-living every minute.
It’s interesting how her opinion has changed about this subject. Last year when we talked about it, she was the one who joked and seemed to think that it was not such a big deal. She flirted a lot with the men and I worried that she might end up involved. Now things are very different. She’s a shadow of the person she was, and her opinions have completely changed.
Of course these are the first few days. Her WS, a travelling salesman, told her that this Friday he will end the A. But he wants to meet the OW alone. I know that’s not a good idea, and I’ve tried to convince her that she should try to find a way to avoid it.

I don’t agree that we meet without spouses or SO, and I am probably the only one who would have to go alone, but none of them want to bring along their SOs. Maybe that will change now.

On another subject, WH made a move!
Last Tuesday DD was leaving for a trip to London. The night before she left, he came to say goodbye and talked to her in the car as usual. Afterwards I asked her if he couldn’t take her to the airport and she said he had a dentist appointment so he couldn’t. I left work early to pick her up to go to the airport and just before leaving the house he called and talked to her again for quite a while. We left. About half an hour after arriving at the airport, WH suddenly appears! It was a bit uncomfortable because I really didn’t want to talk to him. My mother was with me which I think made him nervous. Anyway he stayed for about an hour until she boarded and when he was about to leave he turned around and said he wanted to ask me 2 questions about the girls. I was curt in my answers but they were legitimate questions. So the following day I sent him an e mail with a longer explanation and told him to contact me by mail if he had questions like that.
It’s a minor thing but after 3 years I was surprised.

That’s what I’m up to these last few days. It’s hard trying to explain all MB concepts in Spanish, and all at the same time! You know I offered to translate Surviving an Affair but Dr. Harley didn’t accept my offer. Pity, I could have used it now.

We will keep feeding you chocolate for as long as you stay. And cyberchocolate has no fat.

And cyberchocolate has no fat.

Not as much flavor either.
Oh well.....

No, wait !!
I still have some Lindt in my desk drawer -
SWEET !!

SS

You know I offered to translate Surviving an Affair but Dr. Harley didn’t accept my offer.

I would guess his organization is not prepared to handle the Spanish telephone calls he would get if he had the book printed in Spanish.

CC, I am so sorry you have to be continually exposed to these kinds of things. However, I am glad these people have you to help them. I have recommended MB to two people going through the same, but neither of them wished to try, and both of them filed for D soon after finding out.

It’s a minor thing but after 3 years I was surprised.

What would you do if he said he was sorry, and wanted to try again?

SS

SS, I don't know what I would do. These last few days remembering what most of say we'd do if we found out that our spouse was cheating and what we actually do when we do find out which is quite different, I wouldn't dare predict what I'd do.
Even though I have carried out a too perfect plan B with WH's help of course, for 3 years now, I'm afraid that I may have built up too much resentment. I can't ignore EVER that he lives with OW. I remember every day.
A few days ago it was my birthday and he didn't even send me a message. It was the same day he answered my e mail about a couple of important issues related to the girls. he could have added Happy birthday. When he was 50 I sent him an instant message. He was in Italy with OW and his mother.

Things add up... I don't know what I'd do, but I do know I'd come running back to MB to get advice, that much I'm sure of.

You are probably wise to say that you are not sure....

One of my hobbies now is watching people. When I have to wait for transportation, or when I have a few minutes before meeting someone, I watch people interact. One can see people that are in love, and those who are not, but who ought to be. One can see anger, depression, happiness, sadness....... the full spectrum of emotion. I pray for many of the people I see, because it's easy to tell that they need it.

I continue to pray for you, that God will take care of you, and bring you happiness. I still believe you will find the happiness you seek, though I don't know exactly how that will work.

Is it too late to wish you happy Birthday? I think I will -
Happy Birthday !!

I know you keep busy, but I hope it is a busy that brings satisfaction, not just something to keep your mind off your troubles. Thinking on it, and realizing how much you try to help others, I would bet you are OK most of the time.

Thanks, it's good to hear how you are.

SS