This past Saturday my H informed me that about 3 months ago he got really drunk at a poker game and ended up sleeping with a girl he didn't know. He can not remember anything about the incident, because he said he drank too much. To top things off the one night stand girl has claimed to be pregnant with his child. I have also learned this he has talked to her on the phone and emailed her after the incident.
My husband and I would have been married for 4 year this August. We do not have children yet. (Lucky for us we decided to wait.)
Our marriage has had its ups and downs. We were married very young, I was 18 and he was 22. So we have gone through both of us going to school full-time and working full-time, until this past November when I graduated. He has also been there for me when my arthritis flared. I have a job that I love, my arthritis is mostly in remission, and I thought I had a husband that would never hurt me. (Guess I was wrong.)
I know that he is hurting also and he claims that he wishes he could change things. He would like too see our marriage last, but he is leaving that decision up to me.
I have kicked him out, telling him that I need time to think without him around. I do love my H still. I would give anything to make things go back to the way that they were. (Before his cheating, we were finally to the point in our marriage that I thought we had found true happiness.)
I have called and scheduled a marriage counseling session for us for this week. I believe that I could forgive him over time for the cheating, but I don't think that I could handle dealing with or thinking that there is a child out there that is not mine, but is his. (Unfortunately, he can not get a straight answer from the one night stand as to whether she truely is pregnant or if she just said she was to make him come clean with me.)
I really want to try and make this work, but I don't think that I can wait 6-7 more months to know if she really is pregnant and whether the child is truely his. What should I do, I feel completely lost?

Oh, yeah, counseling is in order.

And accountability.

And a paternity test. And maybe a pregnancy test, if the woman will agree.

I'm sorry for your situation ...

There are other forums here that might help you more so than this one ... Please check out the Infidelity section - Just Found Out or General Questions II are probably the best areas for you to visit, especially if you are not so certain you really want to divorce!

Best,

T

I'm wondering how he managed to drink so much that his memory of the incident was obliterated but not drink too much to hamper his ability to have sex and impregnate someone.
Either he is trying to lighten his guilt load by making like "the alcohol made me do it", or this girl isnt really pregnant. Or both.
If she really is pregnant, she's likely a slut who could very well be pregnant with any man's baby. a woman who would get busy with some completely hammered stranger for a one night stand is under serious scrutiny.
I'm sure your h is remorseful, but it doesnt seem to make sense...if he doesnt remember the incident AT ALL, it's rather coincidental he would have anything to discuss with her shortly thereafter.
Is he just taking her word for it, that they slept together and she's pregnant? fishy.

I would agree a paternity test is in order...after she has provided some documentation from a dr office that she is indeed pregnant. I could be wrong, but chances are that if you guys demand to see proof, you'll not be hearing back from her again.
God bless and good luck with counseling