Hi Sorry,
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First and mostly - it's only been a month, and you need to work on yourself. You will have ALOT of shame, and guilt to get through if you truely are sorry. You are no good to your husband like this.
I often fear that it may be too late, that eventually H will want to leave, but as the fine folks here say - it's consistancy - he wants to know it won't happen again.
The only way your H will know that is if you get help for yourself. Figure out WHY you had the affair, why you didn't listen to your hsband when he warned you about getting into deep. KNOW all the ins and outs as to HOW you got into the mess, and make CHANGES to yourself. Learn how to better yourself, learn your weaknesses and get safeguards in place in case all those circumstances arise again.
Make sure he knows how sorry you are, and make sure he knows how much love him. Don't do anything that will be comprimising, that might even mean being alone with a mutual male friend. This is not the time. You have weaknesses and mistakes and you need to fix those before you are ever exposed to that again.
Ultimately - it's up to your H now, and you don't have any say. It a concequece to your actions, and he is right, it is too late. BUT he can chose to give it a chance. But if you don't figure all the stuff out above and MAKE the changes, you won't survive that chance.
Good luck!
-ds
