Hi, my name is Will. My wife recently found me going on to dating websites and chatting with women. I don't deny it, but as a result, she thinks i'm cheating and says she'll never get past it. I was not and never have cheated in any relationship i've ever been in. But I have lied and been caught several times by my wife. I've lied about spending $ on things and not tellig her. I've hid things from her, including a Vicodin addiction hat lasted about a year and hasn't been a problem since Nov. of 2003. The lying thing is what gets me in trouble and I don't know why i do it. Sometimes I lie about the smallest things. The most recent lie was not telling her about these websites although i didn't deny it when she confronted me. We've been married 5 years and it's been very up and down. She says she's happy when I ask, but doesn't seem it since we've had our 3 year old. I love her but don't know why i continue to hurt her. She said she is leaving for good this time because she doesn't even know me anymore and can't tell what's a lie and what isn't...sometimes i don't even know...My biggest concern is working on myself and letting her do whatever it is she needs to. I need to stop this pattern of lies and cover-ups. I think she is very serious, yet somehow i'm holding up pretty well while looking back on the mistakes i've made. i sort of feel relief in some ways. Does anyone know of a similar situation and if a marriage can withstand this? I'm scared, but for some reason, it feels like it's a good thing. She's made her mistakes too, and i'm not trying to shift blame. We had gone to counceling and she decided not to go any more once she became the topic of discussion. We had an agreement to seperate for 3 months, only for her to ask me to come back home after only 5 weeks. Like an idiot, I did it. Needless to say, I do think she is serious. Any advice would be great.....thanks