Hi everyone. I'm so thankful I found this forum because we can't see our therapist for another 2 weeks due to her busy schedule.

I'm really upset with my husband because he told me that if I married him, I wouldn't have to work. Of course I now realize he was making that statement during the romantic bliss that precedes a marriage.

I know I married him impulsively because my insurance from my teaching profession was about to expire. I had originally intended to live in Mexico for a year so I could become fluent in Spanish and then teach bilingual education. But my fiance at the time didn't want me to return to Mexico because he would miss me too much.

So now I'm married and he wants me to pursue some occupation so I'll look good to his family. I have enough saving where I don't need his money, but sometimes I get the feeling that he wants me to earn money so we can spend more money.

This is my 3rd marriage so I'm to the point where the idea of a divorce doesn't even phase me. I'm realizing that we're growing in different directions because I have no interest in spending large amounts of money for landscaping or buying real estate as a potential investment. I'm quite content living a modest lifestyle and unlike my husband, I have no desire to impress other people.

Thank you for any insight,
Melissa

This board doesn't see a lot of action... not like some of the others.
Emotional Needs or General Questions II might be better.