Yes, not good schedulers...but in our defense we are usually sidetracked by the best intentions...stopped to talk...did one more thing for someone, etc. Although sometimes I am plain undisiplined in everyday life...as opposed to highly disaplined in my values and living them.<P>I tell my true friends to watch me. Do not let me hurt their feelings by my forgetfulness or scatteredness. I'm kind of like a helium balloon. I perform best when I'm allowed to float, but kept tethered. When I get a little too out there...give a gentle tug and I'll come back.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Can you do the test for your H or is that not very effective?

My H did his himself and I was surprised by a few of his answers, but his description I believe is accurate.<P>I missed your previous post. I can just see you scheduling and keeping everybody in line...but so nicely that everybody wants to be in your line.<P>There is no good and bad...frankly I'm glad there aren't many of me...we'd all float our way through life.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

TNT-<P>If I recall my H is an ESJT, as well. YOu are right our lives do have some scary parallels. Not surprising if the personality types match. I took the test 5 years ago. Right around the time that H was diagnosed ADHD.<P>I still think we are due a party, especially after all this creepy-elixer stuff. Waas really surprised to see SHA and others come out.<P>Gotta head for work. God bless

trustntruth, your string says alot about you, you have some good friends on this site, keep that line of commincation open with your H. it sound like your well on your way in repairing your relationship, peace to you and you family

Okay guys!<BR>I finally went and took the test again.<BR>I am still an ENFJ. 2-3% of the population. The teacher. <BR>Does that mean I can't play with you anymore?

No...WS...it means you do a great job of leading, which you do. So you teach, Sheeba can schedule and us INFP's can probe and be the "Healers"<P>I think we'll have a great time!!!!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Thanks FHL<BR>I took that test three times because I just don't see myself as a teacher/leader. Kept coming up the same on different days.<BR> Me a leader? Isn't that kind of like the blind leading the blind?

Hi Folks -<P>WS thanks for giving me a laugh before I go off to work!!! Best way to start the day!!<P>I was looking the test over and the Prober/Scheduler is actually each scored 5/10....I'm split!!!! They wrote J instead of P.....what did they do - toss a coin?<P>Jeez - I knew I was confused!!! Now I know why - because I have a split orientation!!!!!<P>

TNT - Sounds like you made a real breakthrough with your H when your friends were over. Wow. Great that he really was forced to listen to the ideas behind marriage builders and that you could all have an open discussion of marital issues that way. Really, it sounds BETTER (much better!) than couples counseling for making progress towards healing your marriage!<P>Re my situation, I've done a few lovebusters of late, mostly because I couldn't stand it any longer and finally did confront my W with what I know about her affair. But the last couple of days (especially last night and this morning) we've been very sweet to each other even though last night I repeated what I knew about her affair. I think the real change in her behavior (much, MUCH nicer to me) is due to the fact that she knows that I know. And the idea of sewing a mini-recorder into the lining of a heavy winter coat is great! Thanks, I'll look into it.<P>I send you much hope and luck and many blessings in your continued efforts to save your marriage.<P>--Wex