My husband had an affair for six months and the other woman now is pregnant. he broke it off weeks ago,but she recently has said she is pregnant and has proven it and its my husbands i think. She is a big liar we have found out and has manipulated my husband so much. I am so confused and we have children, but I don't know if she is keeping the baby or not. I need some serious advice on either to leave or support him through this.

Trini,

Check out the Pregnancy/Child board here at MB. That board is for people in just your situation. You'll get a lot of good advice and sound support there. Having a child in the picture changes everything. You really need the special help that the folks over there can give you. Please check it out.

~ Snow

My opinion is do what you want. Do you want to stay married? Are you better off with him or without him? Can you handle the embarassment of dealing with a child that is from your husband's affair? Can you handle another woman in your life FOREVER dealing with custody and child support issues? Only you can answer that.

The only thing that concerned me about your post is you said the OW has manipulated your husband so much. That sounds like he is manipulating you into believe that. Nobody makes somebody have an affair. He chose to have the affair and lie to you (so that makes him a BIG LIAR too) and was irresponsible and wreckless enough to have sex with her WITHOUT A CONDOM and literally risk your life (AIDS - Hello?!) and now has a keepsake forever that will drain your finances and cause you and YOUR children stress and embarassment and grief with this reminder forever!

So with all that said, you decide what you need to do. PLEASE get counseling. Good luck!
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Well, we cant answer your questions about whether to stay or not...only you can answer that for yourself...I dont know if I read this wrong or what, but you said it has been proven she is pregnant and it is his??? YOu cant prove paternity until the baby is born!

Snow is right...EVERYTHING changes when a baby comes into the picture...YOU will go back an dforth of wanting to stay and not...wanting to raise the baby and not..and so will your H....

I can almost guarantee that the OW will keep the baby...it is HER ticket to keeping your H for at lest 18 years...Your H will be obligated to pay CS and he may want to raise the baby...or at least have visitation...YOU MUST DO what is best for your Marriage and YOU...

And if that means leaving the marriage, then that is what you must do...Your not alone!