I have so many issues and questions! I can't seem to connect or commit. It's been only 9 mos. since the Dv, but I still miss her. She's engaged to the OM who encouraged her to end our M, so I'm not even trying to bark up htat tree.

There are a couple of interests out there and I've grown close to two. One is an old mentee of mine who has expressed her feelings have been more than platonic for many years. She has offered to explore a more intimate relationship without the pressure of full commitmentment.

The other is new. She is wonderfully suppotive and mature, but she seems ready for a level of partnership that is currently beyond my emotional state.

My problem is this: I don't want to ruin a old friendship or doom a new one by moving into the chaotic waters of romance. I am, though, very attracted to these ladies and am finding this lonely limbo I'm in frustrating. What to do?

The last thing you want to do is to hurt either of them so be honest with both women about where you are emotionally. Remember that even with your lady friend who is willing to have a no strings attached relationship with you, the possibility always exists that a deep emotional attachment will develop and more so since she has already has expressed to you that her feelings for you are more than platonic. Remain a true friend with both women and you will be able sleep well at night.

TMCM

DL,
I would guess that the worst thing you could do right now is over think every thing you do. Look, show a little respect for the woman that want to be in your life. They are not stupid and don't need you to safe gaurd them. They know who you are and what your present state of mind happens to be...woman, after all are much better at these "things" then men are! LOL

What you need to do is go forward and be who you are. Let people take crae of thems selves to do less is presumptuos (good spelling ha?) beyond anything.

You need to take care of you. Worry less about others and more about yourself.

Coach