We ordered a paternity test through the internet and we are getting ready to have it done this weekend. I am prepared for it to come back saying that the child is my husbands but there is a small part of me that is praying she isn't his. My H and sister-in-law are going to the OW house for the test to be done. I didn't want my husband going alone and I am not ready to go with. So I hope all goes well. Thans for listening.

LA

Hugs sweetie.

I know how your slippers feel. Wish I could help more...

- Kimmy

I can certainly relate to those feelings of knowing it probably is your husband's child, but having a glimmer of hope that it might not be. I don't think that there are any of us that haven't held on to even a slight piece of hope. Recovering from infidelity is hard enough. Adding an OC into the situation seems totally overwhelming at times.

My xWS said that he wasn't sure the OW was faithful to him during their affair, so I had some hope the OC wasn't his. Like the OW would care much about being faithful to him!! Duh, she's the one that was screwing around with a married man in the first place! Can't imagine why that might lead him to think that she wouldn't stay faithful to him! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

The wait for results seemed forever, and yet not long enough. My xWS was the father of the OC. Finding out that he was, still didn't stop the pain when it was confirmed. It is the loss of another hope in a very difficult situation.

People have made their marriages work when an OC has been involved. Some have contact, some don't.

I wish there was some way to make this path easier. Obviously there isn't. But please know that you are in my thoughts tonight.

heartmending when I read that "My xWS said that he wasn't sure the OW was faithful to him during their affair, so "

I thought of all the stupid things to say... LOL or your H was very dillusional to think an adulter would be faithful of all things.

WOW if I were you I prob would have busted out laughing, in his face... I know I did when i read it.

NOW the waiting for test results are horrendous. And my god when they actually come in be prepared to have your heart torn out of your chest all over again.

I pray for you that it is NOT his child.

Cordelia,
I'm with you! I've often thought about the variety of things I could have said or done when he made this comment to me. Bursting out laughing was one of them!

If I remember correctly, my response was to look slightly puzzeled/confused,keep a straight face and say "Hmmm. Oh really??? I can't imagine why you'd think that?" No sarcastic tone was used. I didn't want to give him an "out" to take the focus off himself and redirect it to my attitude. Just left my question hanging out there, watching him get flustered and red faced.

Underneath it all though, was still some hope that it wasn't his child. And no words or attitude of mine could ever change that factor.