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I have a 3 year old daughter. I do not want to leave the house or leave my daughter. My wife is refusing to find another job after having a year long affair with co-worker. I am aware of indirect phone contact through a friend of hers (which may or may not have lead to direct contact). My wife is not really doing anything positive to save the marriage except not filing for divorce.
She refuses to leave the home and I really don't want to leave my daughter. I could stay with my parents for a while, but it's not a long term solution. My wife doesn't want me to leave the home. She said she would rather we just get a divorce than separate.
Any suggestions. I did speak with an attorney who advised me to not leave the home.
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Your attorney is right for if you choose to divorce and seek custody of your child, your leaving may well be considered abandonment. It's bad enough that the odds are against you in regards to getting custody without adding something as damaging as leaving the home.
Have you considered consulting with Steve Harley or his sister Jennifer Harley Chalmers? I do remember in one case, Steve did recommend an in-house Plan B in which the BH's only physical contact with the WW was strictly for child related issues, but I hate to recommend that to you without getting Steve or Jennifer's blessing on it.
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I've got an appointment to talk to Jennifer next week. My wife has refused to participate.
I decided yesterday to stop all talk and proceedings about a divorce. I've decided to let her take the lead in this area. I honestly think my wife was secretly hoping I'd go through with the divorce. (my mind is working overtime trying to read her thoughts and reactions).
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I kind of like the idea of an in-house plan b. Sounds difficult to do, but it might work.
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