Swade,

Good to hear from you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Now you can see which one of you is NOT in control right? Sounds like your WS is desparately trying to convince herself she is ok. HOpe you and your IC are not buying into this mentality.

She is still a WS and by her actions it is clear she is not in a good mental state. High strung mood swings, attacks out of desparation, trying hard to keep a straight face while bold face lying, need to blame others instead of telling the truth and fixing herself...... notice how it is mostly about her and very very little about you and your family?

That is what living with a WS is like. Very chaotic and not one you can make long range plans with. So secure your finances and child care. Love your little one(s).

take care,
L.

Thank you for all the support and I agree she is all over the place mentally. Her father has said for about 2 or 3 years that she showes signes of being bi-polor and I am starting to believe him!!!!

I wish their was something I could do to snap her out of this state of mind-- FOR THE KIDS SAKE! Her mode swings are taking a toll on our son (6 years-old). In other words he is turning on her and now she is trying to buy with his love with gifts.

I have got a question????

I not been sooo forward with the "words of affection" meaning telling her that I do love her. Instead I have been showing her and rebuilding the relationship we have had and she seems to be responding?!?!

Would it be advisable to tell her on?? I want to let her know with out being a lame duck!

Well she came over to the house and we as a family spent time together --sounds good but now there is another twist developing-- while she was in the house getting something to eat I was outside continuing my investigational work around her. She had left her cell phone in the car and I looked @ in and out going calls as well as text messages. She had sent 2 text messages to a co worker of hers at work that were pretty "straight forward in the intent".

Is it a good idea to write this guy a letter and copy their boss. They are both employed with a pharmaceutical company. I also think it is time to start plan B. Are their any sample letters that are very effective that other post have used?

I am getting to a point where I am tired of this BS. Almost to the point of throwing in the towel. But I also feel that if I do give up that I will be giving her exactly what she wants. "A easy way out"