Weaver,

Allow me to remind you that you posted that Dan is a slimy, silver tongued devil. You acknowledge in several threads he can always get you to believe and to do anything he wants. You posted you know he is a selfish user if, not exactly evil. But you can never resist him.

So, please, this is absolute NC time. Finally. Stay completely away from him. Never look into his eyes ever again. Otherwise you will be right back at withdrawal day 1. No revenge is worth starting all this over again.

Weaver, Dan is a real loser. You do not even have to look farther than his three failed marriages. No one here wants you to just be number four.

I certainly do not respect Dan as a man. Shoot, I’d be happy to come on over and put his lights out for you if I were within a couple hundred miles of you. And I’m sure I’d have to stand in line.

So you just let him go, OK.

BTW, there sure seem to be a lot of men here on MB who respect you a great deal.

AD,

This has nothing to do with what you said, it was already brewing. You and 2long and SS and Gray are the most decent guys in the world. I know that you would never suggest taking anything other than the high road.

Revenge maybe isn't, 2long. But I have to find a way to get him back. I just have to.

And I will be fine. Maybe it will be just what the doctor ordered.

I can do it and be fine, I know it. I should have done it with the property, I should have done it when he deceived me into dating him, saying he was single.

Don't you see, someone has to give this @astard what he has given.

Please, please don't worry about me. I just can't stay on MB while I do it.

A girl who works for me said today to me that we could get him good, because this is our town, not his.

I don't want him in this town. I have to live here and look out to my island.

He isn't all what he thinks he is. And I am just going to show him a thing or two about messing with woodsmen, that's all.

Personally, I believe he needs to be punished. He has cheated you and your daughter out of your assets/Paige's inheritance. These things don't come easily. I'm glad you talked to SH and got some sound advice. It is dispicable behaviour and not acceptable. You made such a huge gesture handing over the property and he so quickly let you go. IMO he had no intention of hanging around and once he got what he wanted he probably thought there was no point beating about the bush.

Weaver - to take action will cost you a lot emotionally and financially. You will need support and love from family and friends. Act as you see fit. None of us are in your shoes. We cannot tell you what to do but we can send you our thoughts and prayers. I truly still can't believe this happened to you.

Weaver -

As always, if you need me EVER, I am here. You were a port in my personal storm whether you ever knew it or not. Your kindness and humanity called to me....

Here I am:

niosgirl@yahoo.com

I can identify with never being a victim again. Really. Don't want to relive it...but if you need me...........


All my love,
- Kimmy

hey folks...realtor needs some of your wisdom like right now...check her failure thread

Weaver, making a dramatic exit line and vanishing is not cool.

I love ya, but I must protest.

GC

weaver:

You yourself said that you're lawyer friend said it wouldn't be worth suing him.

What would revenge do? Teach him a lesson? After 3 failed marriages and an obvious demonstrated inability 2 be open and honest with you, do you sincerely believe he'll get it before he's in the ground?

We'd miss you.

-ol' 2long

weaver,

((((hugs girl))))

I am so sorry to hear about this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I think, instead of revenge, you need to get that keyboard and get that BIBLE, asap. Get the Vondermans NIV version. Modern language with all the good stuff that was found after the King James version.

Anywhoo, you need to step back and figure out what is healthiest for you, your dd and your future. You are worthy, and you need to think about what it is you need to change so you quit picking these losers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I am sorry for your loss. I also agree with SH, you need to treat this as an affair, and have NC. This guy has NEVER been straight with you.

Your exbf's charm and $1.15 will get you a cup of coffee where I work.

Just want you to know that I am praying for you, and vengeance is the Lords, not yours.

I know you are really hurt and you are reacting. Please try to step back from this. You are way more WORTHY than this. Believe it.

You are precious, to all of us here at MB, and to the Lord. Perhaps God wants you to learn something from this?

I know you trusted and wanted to believe the best in Dan. I too, want to believe in people. However, the older I get, the more I know who are my friends and who aren't.

Sorry you were so used. I am also sorry for your loss. (can't get the tears icon to work????)

I wish you peace, and am praying for you, for God's wisdom, weaver. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Aphilion,

Thank you. I missed your post the other night. And yes I will not contact him. I do not think he will be coming back around either.

He is going to be at the island this weekend, I am sure because he was not there last and the nieghbor over there told me he was asking about renting a port-a-potty for some bash he is having on the 4th so I am sure he will be there making preparations.

But I will not go back there again, not even to confront. He is going to have to start convincing everyone I am crazy to justify what he has done, so I must act the opposite.

Plus, I think I might still have a little pride left, and I think I better keep it that way.

Miss M,

It made me feel good to see your post this morning. You have such a calming effect and I really need that right now.

I think I have been racing back and forth through the first four stages of grief these past five days, not at acceptance yet but it won't be long.

I have been praying, but even that isn't working too well right now.

And I know without any doubt that if he never realizes what he has done and repents/makes amends then he is truly damned and his life will not end in peace. Yep, his payment will come from within himself.

Just as we all know that the WS's in the sitch's on this forum who never repent and make things right will suffer the same fate.

TT,

I will be glad to get where you are right now. I know you are still suffering but you are in a relatively good place and holding your own.

Kimmy,

Thank you for always caring.

To the rest,

Thanks for putting up with my melodramatics.

weaver,

I am another person you have affected.Your kindness in posting to me at last year, when things really hit rock bottom for me, was so important ... and I have seen it time and time again - you seem to never fail in energy to help others.

I am confident that you will find a way to get this toxic person out of your life and move on. I think you have so much more important and better things to go on to. Things that will help you become who you want to be, things which will help you live the kind of life you want to live. I am sorry you are in pain.

Smur thank you.

You know staying on this board and drawing strength from each other is what is going to get me through this.

I wish I wasn't so self-centered right now. I must be getting somewhat to acceptance because my absorbness in myself is starting to nauseate me.

Hi weaver,

I just wanted to let you know I have been following your thread here and I am sorry you are having a tough time.You know,you will get through this too.I have confidence in you.Do give yourself plenty of time to grieve over this newest betrayal ok?

We all have our own time frames and if I listened to my WH who recently(this past week) told me that MB has no value,that I should be forgiving him already(trying to tell me how to practice MY spirituality when he is an atheist) and "move on",and that *I* need counseling(who is the one who really needs counseling I reminded him?) to get over all of this because I am still so angry...yada yada yada <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> well I don't listen to him at all anymore anyway.What does he know? Needless to say,I haven't been on MB the last few days dealing with some major setbacks in this D process and his attitude(in e-mails) which wreaks of control issues.Whatever.

MEN.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> If you can put one man on the moon....why not the rest of them?? LOL

You have a good,kind heart weaver.You have the ability to learn from your mistakes even though it may take more than one go at it.Try to find that *self* love ok? No one can give that to you OR take it away,once it's there~

{{{HUGS}}}

O

Weaver, you are such a dear, wonderful person which is why so many here love you. I am so glad to hear you dropped the revenge idea. It is just not healthy for you and a bad example to your sweet daughter. We are here for you ok? {{Weaver}}

Weaver,

I'm glad to see you back. I was worried - and feeling responsible for making unwise suggestions to you at a time when you were "in a state".

Like Miss M said, try to focus your energies in positive directions. Did you ever hear the old country song ...

Keep On The Sunny Side

There's a dark and a troubled side of life
There's a bright and a sunny side too
Though we meet with the darkness and strife
The sunny side we also may view

Keep on the sunny side always on the sunny side
Keep on the sunny side of life
It will help us every day it will brighten all our way
If we keep on the sunny side of life

Oh the storm and its fury broke today
Crushing hopes that we cherish so dear
The clouds and storm will in time pass away
The sun again will shine bright and clear

Let us greet with a song of hope each day
Though the moment be cloudy or fair
Let us trust in our Savior always
To keep us every one in His care


Lyrics provided courtesy of Bluegrass Lyrics.Com!

-AD

Weaves!!!!

I am so glad you are back!!!!

I am at a loss for words! (Yes, me!) But know that I am thrilled and excited and happy and ecstatic. I missed all of your posts until long after they appeared and I was so saddened for you, and miserable that I couldn't say any words of goodbye before you left. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Your return has made my week.

Please stick around. So many people love you, Hon.


slh

Weaver:

I'm glad you're back 2. I "sang" you this song at one of gc's campfire programs, but you may not have seen it:

For weaver, if she's reading here (I hope she is!):

Tonio K., "Living Doll"

"She was looking good
She was a beautiful girl
From a tenth generation American dream world.
To look at her you'd never guess
That she could hurt so bad in such a beautiful dress

'Cause

1. She had the perfect smile
2. She'd been the perfect child
3. She looked as if she had it all

She was a living doll!

She'd been looking around for a new situation
Beyond sex and short-term stimulation.
'Cause everyone she'd ever known
Had treated her like something they owned,

So

1. She played the little girl
2. She was afraid of the whole wide world
3. She felt so helpless and so small

She was a living doll!

She'd never been given a minute of love
Unless she met the conditions.
And it made her so mad that her heart froze up
And the pain turned into a prison.

It was a miracle when she came to life
When true love cut through the pain like a knife.
Now when the coast is clear and the past is buried
Who knows - she might even get married.

1. She kinda met this guy
2. He ain't perfect but he's alright
3. Now she can't wait for him to call
4. He kinda likes her too
5. She ain't perfect but he says she'll do
6. He keeps her picture on the wall

'Cause he thinks she's a living doll!"

I'm speachless, and a little overwhelmed reading this. When I was on the phone with SH he mentioned how incredible the members here are. It's so true.

2long, somehow I can picture you guys sitting around drinking beer and singing songs. More like sailor songs and of course Gray, actually being a singer will have his earplugs in and be just a smiling. Posting that song for me was really nice of you. Thank you, I feel vert blessed.

Even AD is quoting lyrics now. lol

I just got off the phone with one of my fishing boat clients and he told me that the boats wouldn't be in the water next week as he was shutting down. He's tired he says and since it's a full moon week next week he is shutting down.

He said that on a full moon week, the catch drops by 1/2 to 3/4 of the catch the week following and preceding. That all sorts of wierd things happen such as the nets get real slimey, the barameters are off and the fish might swim to the net but don't enter it, and they swim high. Also they are never in the usual places.

Interesting heh.

O'girl, you make me laugh sometimes. You are one tough cookie. He said you are the one who needs counseling? Too funny.

Slh,
I'll see you at Grays this weekend, eh?

Weaver,

You sound Good! Makes me smile.

For a landlubber, I always like sea references in songs. And I'll here reveal that I'm an old religious softy of the teary-eyed variety. Thus the following song hits me with a "double whammy".

Do you know the "Navy Hymn?" It's of English origin as most sea-songs are. But to me, (tearing up already) it is not just about the sea, but the sea and it's storms are a metaphore for life.

Words and music : http://www.niehs.nih.gov/kids/lyrics/navyhymn.htm
History and words: http://www.history.navy.mil/faqs/faq53-1.htm

(seriously teary-eyed now, since I looked at the words again)

In Weaver's honor, the last verse should be sung...

O Trinity of love and power!
Our sister shield in danger's hour;


The Navy Hymn

Eternal Father, Strong to save,
Whose arm hath bound the restless wave,
Who bid'st the mighty Ocean deep
Its own appointed limits keep;
O hear us when we cry to thee,
for those in peril on the sea.

O Christ! Whose voice the waters heard
And hushed their raging at Thy word,
Who walked'st on the foaming deep,
and calm amidst its rage didst sleep;
Oh hear us when we cry to Thee
For those in peril on the sea!

Most Holy spirit! Who didst brood
Upon the chaos dark and rude,
And bid its angry tumult cease,
And give, for wild confusion, peace;
Oh, hear us when we cry to Thee
For those in peril on the sea!

O Trinity of love and power!
Our brethren shield in danger's hour;
From rock and tempest, fire and foe,
Protect them wheresoe'er they go;
Thus evermore shall rise to Thee,
Glad hymns of praise from land and sea.

-----

*wiping eyes "sorry, I've got a soft spot for that one."*

-AD

Dear Weaver,

Welcome.

Thanks.

SS

Now your making me cry AD. That is beautiful.

Sting put out an album about 10 yrs ago which mostly about the sea. His dad was a fisherman in England, and not a very good dad. So the album was actually cathartic for him but some really beatiful sea songs on it.

I'll post the name for you when I remember it.

I've been following your thread AD, but have nothing so far to contribute right now.