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If each of you will email me your information, I will be more than happy to handle this for you.

Sage

Thanks Sage! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

HINY

Has he told you yet that he made a mistake marrying you, and that he's never been in love with you? If you haven't heard it yet, you will. Yes, they're that predictable.

Orchid has a link to some real doozies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Settle down for a little while. It's not that bad yet.

Hi Sleepless.

Yes, he said we made a mistake getting married. He hasn't (yet) said he was never in love with me, but he said I had hated him for years! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

This after the ILY texts I sent him every day, all the cuddles, the flirting, not to mention all the times I actually said ILY, right up until d/day!

Selective memory or what. This way (saying it was me who hated him, rather than the other way round) makes it even more my fault that he left.

I wonder what WS think that warm, contented feeling actually is that you have for each other when you been together for a long time. Obviously that feeling is swamped by the rush of the affair, but it still amazes me that he never seems to have felt it at all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

Hi, Alphin.

Here are some alienisms my WH said. Did yours use any of these?

WH: I've been wanting to leave for a long time.
Me: Why didn't you?
WH: Because I didn't want to leave. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

WH: Why can't you just leave MOW out of this? She has nothing to do with any of this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

WH: No, of course MOW and I don't live together. We won't move in together until we are both divorced. She does have morals! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

WH to kids: I found another woman I love more than your mother. Your mother and I will probably get divorced. You may end up living in two different houses, but nothing will really change for you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I have a million of WH's brilliant utterances, but I'll spare you before I threadjack any more.

I know what you mean, Alphin. The rewriting of marital history hurts so much. The WS has to justify what they're doing by making the BS a bad person - or else the WS would have to face the fact that they are doing something wrong.

You're getting good advice. Hang in there!

Thanks Pebbles.

I've been lurking on your thread for a while, following your plan B experiences! I've haven't posted because I don't really feel qualified for giving advice - I'm still all at sea with my plan A!

Here are some of my WH's 'alienisms':

'I'm a great father and you're a great mother so we don't need to stay together'.

'The kids will grow from this experience'.

Him: 'Our marriage was over years ago. You have to accept it.'
Me: 'Why didn't you leave me years ago?'
Him: 'I don't know'.

Him: 'If parents don't get along, the kids are unhappy so it's better if we live apart.'
Me: 'But our kids are happy'.
Him: 'But soon they wouldn't be'.

Calling occupants of interplanetary craft... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />