My MIL just called me to say my BIL in the Marines has justed started dating a married Navy girl. She gave him the riot act saying you know how you hate your brother's ow now you are a om. She want us to go visit him this weekend in Biloxi. How can I convey to him how painful this is to everybody involved especially the bs. My BIL is only 20 yrs old and probably everything will go in one ear and out the other. But that horrible feeling in my gut has come back -- just bringing up the pain I have been going through for over a year.

I just can't be the conflict avoider I am and let this go with out saying something.

Any input would be helpful.

tdr

TDR,

Tell him how you feel about it, explain it in a way he will understand. Tell him if she'll do it with him, she'll do it to him. Ask him how he would feel if his Fiance or serious G/F did this to him then multiply it by 10 for a married couple. What starts in lies and deceit will end the same way. If she would do this to the man she swore a lifetime commitment to, what would she do to the man she is just humping on the side? Ask him if this is the type of person you would feel comfortable with having a family and then being deployed for 6 months to a year? All by herself...hmmmm...for a year. He needs to end this crap now.

Does he know that he and she can be busted for what they are doing? I'd threaten it because obviously neither one knows what the "F" they are doing to each other and her family.

Clothes go out of style but Morals are always fashionable, they go with everything.

You're doing the right thing to plan an intervention.

However you do it, include mention of the Uniform Code Of Military Justice - he could get thrown in jail.

Is the "married Navy girl" a Navy wife or actually in the Navy, too?

Other things to consider include informing his Commanding Officer and informing the OW's husband.

WAT

Is the "married Navy girl" a Navy wife or actually in the Navy, too?


She is in the Navy not sure about her bh. My BIL marine friends say that the marines do not care about infidelity. Is that true? My BIL know that she could get in a lot of trouble. Luckily this is a very new relationship 2 to 3 weeks and he is leaving next week for home than Japan but she is scheduled to go to Hawaii.

Thanks for your advice.

tdr