After 5 months and 14 days of the constant pain and agony of being without my new H, he finally filed in April to set me free. I am so happy for being set free of his deep depression and at the same time keeping an eye on how he is trying to rob me for every dime I have. I pray on it and realize each day that he was not the one for me. I don't believe God wanted me to be miserable due to someone else's pain and agony.

Everyone keep me in your prayers...I believed in keeping it together no matter what, but keep in mind, the Bible does have a legal clause that if an unbeliever does not want to be in the marriage, then the believer is legally (spiritually) unbound from the union. However, the believer should marry a believer the next time. So, those that were served like myself, don't think you are the bad one...think you are the victorious one for not wanting to break that vow...for staying the course. So chest out, back straight, and chins high...and look forward for that new day!

Nomoregames (and, thank GOD, no more tears...)

nomoregames,

I'm sorry that it's taken so long to respond to you. This is my busiest time of year and I've barely been to these boards in the last month.

You sound like you have a good attitude about what has happened, but I know it's still very hard. You DID do everything you could and you should feel very good about yourself for that.

I will keep you in my prayers as you work towards finalizing your D. It's a tough road, but you can let this all change you for the better with the right attitude. It sounds like you are doing well in that regard.

As bad as all this has been, I can really focus on the good things that have come out of it now. God really uses these times to change a person for the better as long as they don't become bitter and look for the lessons he is trying to teach during these trials. You are obviously very strong in your faith and that will serve you well in the days ahead.

Well, try not to be such a stranger around here and I will try and check in more often myself. Let me know if you have any questions about the D process or anything. I have been going through it for a long time now! (hopefully not much longer). You can come here or e-mail me at [email]starman6615@yahoo.com.[/email] Don't forget to take care of yourself and don't let this totally consume your days.

Take care and God bless, nomoregames.

starman

Starman,
Thanks so much for the condolences. To be honest with you, I am elated. Because at least I am coming out of that funk I have been in for 6 months. It is really truly honestly his loss and not mine. I just feel sorry for him. He is such a Momma's boy that he doesn't know what he is missing out on.

Also, I just found out Sunday night that his Mom is the culprit behind a lot of my woes. I can only pray for her, because she doesn't realize how much she stagnated her son's growth and prosperity. When she dies, he will have no one to care for...and that is sad. Sure he will find another woman, and it may work out...but without me sounding like I am all that and a bag of chips, if he finds someone with the attributes that he is accustomed, he will go nowhere fast. I finally realized that he is not accustomed to an intelligent woman with 3 degrees, an income greater than his, and a lifestyle where money is not a day in day out dilemma. I also realize, that some people are so used to struggling and hustling so much that they can't realize a blessing or a gift when get it.

Oh well...not my problem....HOOOH HOOOOHHHHH!!!!!

Thanks Starman! I will keep in touch...

Nomoregames

Well it has been 1 month and 13 days since I was served. And exactly 7 months since he left. I will say I am still hanging in there. God is good...because nothing but blessings have come my way since I was served...

A. The IRS told me I paid too much just yesterday (wow go figure that out--What a miracle)
b. I realized that I will be able to stay in my home without his income.
c. I became a key player in a Never Been Married group at my church...(I joined since my marriage is so shortlived, I feel like I was never married)
d. My faith has grown stronger and stronger...(My STBXH Mom's neighbor told me that she will never let him go again...So which one of us in perpetual torment...not I, that's for sure...I can move on)

Every now and then I get a little meloncholy...just thinking how this time last year I was a new bride and loving every minute of it...but I know that God doesn't want me to be alone forever, so I twist it around by thinking how wonderful someone more compatible and better can come into my life.

I wish everyone well with your struggles through the divorce process...I am realizing that it ain't easy to let go, but I must. Sometimes God has to shake someone loose from you so you can achieve your greatness...nothing like a boat anchor tied to your leg.

God Bless,
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