I am 29 and have been married for 6.5 years. I am a Regional Director for a company and it had required a lot of travel. On the latest trip it was because we were moving back to PA from CA. The wife absolutely hated CA and she wanted to move back so I did it to make her happy. I was away for 2 months during the final move and came home to find my wifes's feelings have changed. She says she still loves me but it is not as strong as it once was. This devistated me. I realized we both had cause this and I have recently begun to change my faults leading to this. She wants to act liek nothing is wrong so we can get back to lie as usual. Of course she does not want to have sex though. She says she wants to reconnect and reistablish what we used to have and work it out. Now I find out that her best friend from AZ is probably moving out here with her 6 yeear old boy. My wife wants her to stay here for several months while she gets on her feet. I don;t think our marriage is ready for that yet but of course I am the "bad guy" for saying that. We go to some church based counseling starting Friday and I hope the counselor tells her it is not good and I hope she listens. Am I wrong for thinking this or am I way off base?

Any help would be great at this time and sorry for the long winded post.

Bad idea. Very bad idea. You are under NO obligation to take this friend in - if this lady wants to move and follow your wife, etc. then she needs to have her own plan and her own place to live, and even more so when you and your wife are having problems. Your wife made a commitment to YOU, not her. And of course, having 'friends' in the house just opens up more potential problems.. I'd definitely vote "NO" on this one.
JHMO.
Harold

I agree but when I expressed my feelings about that I was accused of just trying to bring her down. She then started to say that she could never turn away a friend in need and how could I do that. I just hope the counselor we go to tomorrwo thinks the same and if they do that my wife will listen. I have a bad feeling that she may think the conselor is wrong and she may just not listen to him.