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I called the Y and asked the operator for him. they almost connected me but I hung up. SO he's there...
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Here his voice first. You might have gotten the VOICEMAIL!!! You can hang up if he answers...
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hmmmmm, or they could have done what they do in my office. When someone asks for me, they transfer to my phone whether I am there or not and it rolls to my voicemail if I am gone.
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If he's not while your W's car is parked there, time to get your hands on that thong after she's changed for work. Actually from my experience, you don't necessarily need a kit to detect semen... I have thought of this, but she normally rinses out her underwear in the shower, so I'm not sure if there will be anything left to detect, and since she always washes her underwear like that, washing it wouldn't implicate guilt either.
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I probably should have waited longer. I guess I'm paranoid about him noticing my phone #. Hang up calls make people suspicious.
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#67 does not allow your number to be viewed. Have someone else call and ask for him. They can say that got the wrong number or if he answers, ask him a question about the Y.
Do you know what kind of car he drives? You can see if it's in the parking lot. If you are up to it, I would make my way back over there.
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I don't know his car, but do know his name, address etc. Is there a way that I could find his car info?
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LOL...call the gym, tell them that you're in the parking lot, and that you just ran into (insert OM's name)'s car...could he please meet you outside to look at the damage???
And then stand back in the shadows someplace and watch what car he walks to. Might work.
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I had to get this info. from a PI. However, since you know where he works, I guess you could park your car and wait until he leaves to find out or driveby his house if he doesn 't have a garage. Hopefully, someone else will have an answer to this question for you.
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OK, well here is what happened at lunch.
I drove by the Y again, but they had already left.
I went home and Wife was there with daughter, and the daughter of a friend who she is babysitting.
So, I figure, I can at least have a nice lunch, right?
Well, she is in a wierd mood and after a few minutes says, "You're not here for lunch are you? You thought you were going to catch me with someone?!" "Well, I'm glad you get to see what my boring life is really like." Of course, I pleaded innocent and said "Is it a crime to come home for lunch??"
I didn't find any other incriminating evidence. She is probably still wearing the underwear and all...
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A part of her likes it that you care enough to check.
Remember: KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR....
Stay on the case.
GOOD WORK!!!!
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A part of her likes it that you care enough to check.
Remember: KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR....
Stay on the case.
GOOD WORK!!!! I wish I believed that. She said "You are in denial! We are getting seperated and divorced!"
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Stick to the standard line....'If you want a divorce, then you can file for it and do the work to make it happen. I am working on our marriage, and will continue to do so."
You need to recognize that getting the proof on her is going to be alot harder since she knows that you're on to her now.
Don't argue with her, don't fight with her, don't discuss ANY of this with her. And keep on plan A'ing and working on getting the evidence you need to expose the A.
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I agree totally with OWL.
She will be making those comments to get you off course.
Stick with the "standard line".
She gave you some valuable information today for PLAN A, I think.
Why does she think her life is "boring"?
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"Well, I'm glad you get to see what my boring life is really like." Of course, I pleaded innocent and said "Is it a crime to come home for lunch??" Gramm, so you would have been guilty if you had caught her with someone??? You know, she is still a married woman, Gramm, and I would suggest that you make this clear to her. She cannot conduct herself like a single woman from the comforts of your home or it is adultery. I would make this very clear. And I like what Owl suggested, please say that to her the next time. And quit letting her bully you about checking up on her. Ask her if she has something to hide? Why is she so defensive? And lastly, your wife is so defensive that I suspect she is either planning a meeting today or HAS done something with the OM today. She sure sounded angry and nervous that you showed up at your own house! Can you go drive by your house again this afternoon?
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I wish I believed that. She said "You are in denial! We are getting seperated and divorced!" Dear, but let me remind you, we NOT separated and we are not divorced. We are very married and very much living together. Now, if you would like to leave, you are free to do so, there is nothing stopping you. But until then, we are married and I am here to work on our marriage."
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Yeah, I get what you're saying.
Somehow, to her, we are seperated even though we are still living in the same house, sharing utilities and child care duties... It's kinda strange...
She can keep doing what she thinks is necessary, and so will I.
It's tough though...
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OK, i just found a new email...
Check this one out... Is there tension in paradise?
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Date: Mon, 6 Jun 2005 09:19:14 -0700 (PDT)
From: Wife
To: Y Guy
Hey there handsome
Sorry I had a teenage moment this morning, I didn't mean to stress you out. I really want to talk to you, though. I'll practice my restraint and try not to call until the time you told me to.
Talk to you later.
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Y GUY doesn't want his wife to find out about this. She called with his wife around.
He's not planning a separation from his wife. He seems to be having fun with your W. Is the Y GUY older than your W? Exposure to his wife once you have enough info. will be crucial, I think.
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I believe Y Guy is 42 with a 40 yr old wife. I'm 31 and my wife is 28. I TOTALLY plan on telling his wife about this once I've got enough evidence. I guess I could go to her now, but I don't know her or how she'll react.
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On another topic, we have another appointment with the Councillor tomorrow. He doesn't know about my affair evidence. I wonder if I should tell him before the appointment? It might help him understand, but I don't want him to spill the beans yet.
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