Interesting stuff today:

I checked the computer and saw that she had been looking at a planned parenthood site! I thoguht that would mean that she is thinking of abortion stuff (pregnant or not!??)

So, later I ask her again. I said, "I saw that you were looking at some planned parenthood site. Are you pregnant?"

She said no. and that she was looking at that page to see about getting birth control. And to stop snooping at her computer usage.

So, this leaves me with some disturbing possibilities:

a) She wants birthcontrol for possible random encounters
b) She wants birthcontrol for YGuy (This seems unlikely. - She would rub it in my face if they were back together.)
c) She wants birthcontrol for me. (Yeah right!)
d) She IS pregnant and the birthcontrol thing is a lie.

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Later in the day, she called me just to see "how I was doing"...

Has she gone to Planned Parenthood before? It seems to me that an adult would go there more for an abortion than to get birth control pills. I don't know, but I used to get my bc pills from my doc.

Gramn - On a side note - what if she WAS pregnant. What would be your reaction?

Gramm we can find out what she was looking at. If you have windows xp this is what you do, go into "my computer" go up to where file edit view etc are and click on tools, go into folder options, click on the tab view, under hidden files and folders select show hidden files and folders, click apply and than ok. exit out of that and than enter you local disk drive, most of the time it is called local disk drive C:, go into documents and settings, what ever user name she was logged in as that is the folder you go into, open local settings, open temp internet files, now in this folder all the items should be by default viewd in details, to sort them out you'll have name,internetaddress etc, click on the tab "type", scroll down into the html document type files, it does in alphabetical order so scroll down till you see files called www.plannedparenthood.com, be careful though there won't be a lot of them so you might miss them. To open the file just double click on IE icon that is next to each one of the www.plannedparenthood.com addresses. Open each one of the planned parenthood ones. This will bring the up the webpages she was viewing so if she was viewing abortion you will get abortion pages.

Gramm,

She isn't going to tell you the truth, so why do you ask and let her know you're snooping? It will just aggravate her. Find another way to track her usage, so you KNOW what's going on. Buy some simple software that will allow you to track everything she does and everything she sees without her knowing it.

She IS softening to you by the way. Otherwise, she wouldn't even bother calling you to "see how you're doing."

Shellybird

believer- No she hasn't been to planned parenthood before (to my knowledge) She usually gets birthcontrol from a doctor too, but she said that she was looking into that so I wouldnt get on her case about it (when the birthcontrol eventually was billed to my insurance)

Noliving- Thanks for the tip, but I had already checked her history file. She must have cleared it. I used your idea too though, nothing interesting there...

shellybird- I told her that I was cleaning out cache files and noticed that entry, rather than say to her that I was snooping.

What does she need birth control for???

Deleting history will not affect temp. internet files. Well if you did what I said it will tell you if she checked abortion or if she checked birth control.

Hi, Gramn.

Could she be consulting Planned Parenthood about treatment for an STD, if she was too embarrassed to see her regular doctor about it?

A GOOD QUESTION...

I found out about this Planned Parenthood thing from my spyware. It just showed that she had visited a general page and a general page about abortion. It didn't show anything besides that.

I checked the history, nothing.
I checked the files (as Noliving suggested) and didn't see anything interesting either.


I would like to know the truth, but don't know what I think about it if she is/was pregnant. I'd like to support her and I'm against abortion, but I don't want to raise some other dude's kid either. It's a wierd situation.

Also, shes reluctant to talk to me about this. I'm sure that it's a time sensative issue though. It's not like I can wait for her to "come around" to talk to her about this stuff...

I wouldn't wait for her to come around. I would be as persuasive as possible in finding out the truth. Screw her "sensitivities." You can't force her to tell you, but I would be persistent. You have a right to know.

If she's not having sex, then why would she need bc? That is what I would want to know.

Gramn - I think that you need to figure out in your own mind about how you feel if she is pregnant. See roughstart's thread on Just Found Out.

Knock her out with some nyquil, and than do a home pregnancy test! heheheh. Not like it would work but just something to entertain in your mind.

believer: I read roughstart's thread. I guess there are pleny of other people out there in messed up lives too. I still don't know how I feel about all of this though.

Noliving: You've got some entertaining ideas...

Wife called again asking if I'd been served with papers yet.

Still waiting...

FOR WHAT??

The only good sign of her calling you is it would appear that she is not filing a retraining order and looking for immediate temporary custody of yoru daughter. If so her call to you could be a cause for her arrest.

In light of this I hope you got your ducks in a row...most of us here are pulling for you. Remember you are under no obligation to discuss anything with her once papers are filed and she has representation. Ring up her lawyer bill by calling them for information....she can sue you fo rher lawyer fees but she'd be hard pressed winning....

I don't think she would be telling me about this if she planned to have me arrested. What do you mean by "If so her call to you could be a cause for her arrest." How could her calling me lead to her arrest?


I had never thought of asking HER lawyers for information. Intersting idea.

If she filed a restraining order against you , you are not allowed ANY contact and they grant temporary custody to her (at least that's how it works in NY). If she is terrified of you to teh point that you need to be legally restrained WHY is sh ecalling you? (Perjury - she lied about fear; harrassment - she is calling to harrass you). Please note a restraining order is not an arrest. It simply threatens arrest (or makes it mandatory) if you violate the order.

You can ask her lawyer for information once legal papers are filed and only if you act as your own attorney. I did this for a short spell...and then got counsel quick....I was way over my head...

Send me- OK, that makes sense. I've got a lawyer and even have an appointment for tomorrow (in case I get served today)

Well, today she is all pissed off at everything again.

1) She is mad that I said I would "Protect my family from outside forces" and that I told her about OM's lies yesterday. (I'll have to avoid that topic for a while)

2) She is mad that I have not moved out. "ANy chivalrous man would move out on his own"

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