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{{Gramn}} How is your DD? Oh, she's fine. We've been doing all sorts of fun stuff as usual.
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Hi Gramn
Good to hear from you and to also hear that you have been getting out and about doing other things. Sorry to hear about the house. I am hoping you have supplied the court appointed guardian person with enough info to put up a very good fight for your DD, esp since you have been the responsible one in all of this.
Again, good to hear from you.
Me BGF 40
WBF 36
DD 4 yr now
DDay April 05
Plan A Mid Oct 05
XWBF & OW broke up Oct 06
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Gramn...
I just wanted to let you know that Mr. Wondering and I "wonder" about you often. We will keep you and your daughter in our prayers. I hope that you hold your head high with the knowledge that you have acted with the highest of integrity throughout your entire ordeal.
I also wanted you to know that your being here helped me more than you could ever have known. Yours was the first "story" that I read when I came here in July 2005. Reading all that you were going through was so instrumental in the first of my fog lifting. Through your own pain, you helped me to see just how horrible what I had done to my husband was. Discussing the dynamics of your situation allowed for some of the first real connections between my husband and I after my affair. Thank you for the part that you played in giving us our marriage back.
From adversity comes great strength. It breaks my heart that you continue to go through any upset due to your wife's affair. I genuinely hope that you gained a lot personally from being here. I think that it is important for you to know that God used you to help others. I am certain that we weren't the only ones. I believe that you will be rewarded for being His footsoldier in this way. Continue to trust in Him and His plan for you, I know that He has amazing things instore for your young life. Gramn you are truly a hero in my eyes, you are indeed a very good man. I just thought you should know...
From time to time, please stop by and let us know how you are doing. So many of us here hold you close to our hearts...
Many Blessings,
Mrs. Wondering
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Thanks for the kind words Mrs. Wondering. You are not the only one who said that my posts have helped them, so I guess that counts for something.
And, hopefully, I've learned something from all this, and from the people here. So whenever I get in another relatioship, it will be a stronger one.
I really do appreciate all of the advice and encouragmetn that I've recieved here.
In this situation it's easy to look back and think "I should ahve done this instead of that" but coming here and seeing what has worked for other people helps me know that I did try my best...
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They have now rescheduled us for another pretrail on May 8th!
I am SO freakin sick of this process being dragged out. It is so mentally and physically taxing!
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I am sorry this is dragging out so long. Maybe there is a reason for it that will work out for the good. I hope so.
How have your self improvements been going. Are you less depressed lately?
Married 1976
Me:BS
Him:FWS
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Gramn
I don't know your sitch but I am very sorry about what I just read today. Glad you are still around though. My heart goes out to you.
I will be praying for you. Stay strong.
WOL
BS (Me) 43
WW or FWW 40
2 DS's 16 and 13
Married 21 Years
D-day 9/10/2005
Exposure 9/11/2005
False NC 9/11/2005
Discovery of Contact 12/23/2005
NC (Letter written Jan 2006)
Divorce Petition Filed Jan 2006
In a holding pattern.
Me Still Handing in there
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Thanks for the support.
Not much going on right now. Some days I'm feeling pretty good, others depressed...
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Hey Gramn, good to see you around. I am in the waiting for the divorce game myself. Give your DD and extra squeeze from all your MB friends!
Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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Even if it didnt help me save my marriage, I really appreciate the advice and support from everyone here.
THANKS GUYS!
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No problem Gramn!
What is your situation now? Situation in regards to your daughter...WW...OM...OMW?
Just checking up on you.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Gramn-
WOW.......I haven't seen you post in a long, long time.
How are you???
Please give us an overview of your sitch.....I will re-read where I left off when I get home from work.
I hope you're doing well.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Gramn?! Where the heck are you?? LOL Update us hon <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> God Bless, -Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
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Together 15 years
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Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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I just posted a few days ago! Thanks for noticing my absense though...
Coming here just makes me depressed. GENERALLY I'm not that depressed right now but thinking of all the work and mental suffering I put into my marriage and all the things I worked on with the people here....
Not much has changed. WW is still with YGuy
The Court appointed guardian is working on making a judgment about our custody thing. I, of course, have asked for more time w our daughter.
I just had to put my house on the market. IT seems like it will take a little while to sell since it's winter.
Ive been trying to concentrate on other things. Work, hobbies, going out w friends, etc.
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Gramn, it's good to hear from you.
I'm sorry about the situation but things do get better, if you want them to. You have control over your life, so you can make it happen for you, and get to the point where ll the work and suffering you put into the marriage has ade you a better and stronger man. And a futur better stronger husband.
It gets better.
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Gramn
Good to hear from you and that you are getting on with things and remember it's not over until the fat lady sings!
It took me a long to realise this but one day you will be the one in a strong position, you have done an excellent job at trying to save your marriage and one day that effort will pay its rewards. Time will be the deciding factor.
All the best for the custody decision with your DD and I hope you get more time with her also.
Me BGF 40
WBF 36
DD 4 yr now
DDay April 05
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Not much new to report.
I feel kind of stalled because I would like to find a new job away from here, but if I do that I know it would make the custody stuff much tougher.
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Gramn, good to hear from you again, even if you think there is nothing to report! Im sure your daughter is more beautiful every day!
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Gramm, You have many supporters here thinking of and praying for you. Take good care of yourself. The high road will win out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> k
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Gramn, your strength has been an inspiration to me. Thank you and God Bless.
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