I've been divorced since December and last Saturday it was my X's birthday. she's out with a couple of friends and she calls me (drunk) to let me know where she is and that she wants me to meet her. I was in the city earlier that night but I came home and I didn't want to go back in besides I never really cared for the people she surround herself with. But here's my problem. She kept me on the phone that night and practically begged me to call her the next morning to make plans about seeing her that day. I call her the next morning and her attitude is stone cold changed. She basically blew me off and the thing is I felt that she was reaching out to me and that she wanted to be with me and it felt good. I know she doesn't have anybody in her life and neither do I but I want her to find somebody that makes her happy because she sounded so needy and alone that night. I still have this urge to want to take care of her even though it isn't my place to anymore. I guess I'm just venting but I feel like it's about time that one of us found someone and is happy. I'd prefer it was her first.

Last Saturday was my daughter's birthday.

Coughlin, why would you rather it be she who finds some else first?

Coughlin,

Maybe your EX was just confused and sad.Afterall,she called while she was drunk.After going back and reading your old posts,maybe she had some trigger or has some unrelieved feelings about your marriage since you both cheated on one another.

Even though I feel like I have been divorced for over a year now,I occasionally get sad when I think about the past and how happy my WH and I were and I miss the "feeling" of that.But it goes away in time.

Anyway,I'm not sure if you are friends at this stage but I think when you called her the following morning,reality was back in action.I personally would not make too much out of the call.I'm sure it happens to more than one D'd couple in this world.

O

I'd say this is a good case of 'The alcohol talking' and she knew what strings to pull to get a reaction out of you. Maybe she thinks alcohol is a good basis for a meaningful relationship, but I'm sure you don't.
Probably the next time this happens, I believe if it were me - and this is only my opinion - I'd just remind her what she did to you 'the next day' and tell her if she still feels the same way tomorrow, then to call you back and you'll talk to her then. Don't let her alcohol-fogged personality (at that particular time) pull you into her messes.
Only my opinion.
TDL