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Hi all,
I was MBer a few years ago, and now I'm back. Been divorced for almost 5 years. I have been engaged now for 6 months and with him for 1 year and a half. I don't know if it is cold feet or there are real issues that should be worked out. I don't want to make same mistakes.
I have a 7 y/o and he has a 5 y/o. I recently had a major surgery done and he has a been wonderful, BUTT lately our intimatcy with lack of is not there but he has been satisfying himself other ways and he doesnt get it that this is very hurtful to me. I feel totally not wanted, rejected and have no confidence. We are due to get married in July but I am just not sure of it. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
Dewey [color:"purple"] [/color]
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Was the surgery female oriented? Short of him having issues with something like a hysterectomy, I would see this as a red flag and would probably put off the wedding. OTOH, I could be over reacting because my marriage suffered from lack of intimacy.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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No it wasn't female related (I wish it was then I could understand). I had a total hip replacement on April 13th. I have caught him online a couple of times well doing things I don't agree with but he is going to do it anyway. I confronted him once and he said it is natural. That was fine but it seems to have replaced me. We have been intimate one time in the last two months. That is not enough for me. I need him to hold me and tell me He loves me not just saying it but showing me. We are to be married in two months and yesterday I seriously considered calling off the wedding. We are both under so much stress lately. I just don't know what to do.
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