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My wife told me about a week ago that she was unhappy in our marriage and thought we should go to counseling. I agreed. In our discussions it came out that she was talking with another man (same guy from 2 years ago) and I told her that I could not tollerate that; if she was going to continue talking to him she had to leave, so that night she "moved in" with a friend. Now she's looking at apartments and talking about separation agreements, etc.
She still says she loves me and wants to go to counseling and work this out, but her actions are saying differently. She now says she's happier than she's ever been, she feels "free" and like a huge pressure has been lifted from her shoulders. She doesn't answer my phone calls, doesn't return them and doesn't call me; although she continues to say that she wants to talk to me....
I've hit a wall, I don't know what to do or how to proceed.
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TM94, I'm sorry to hear this. It's very sad.
Here are some ideas I'd consider...
1. Contact your lawyer to get information and protect your assets.
2. Make sure you've got your own bank account otherwise, she can take all the cash.
3. Consider moving to Plan B.
The first two are "Just in case" defensive actions. However, because your wife won't even return your phone calls, because she feels "free" and because she's looking at long-term housing options, I think you need to be prepared.
The last is geared to help you, as you probably know. If you think Plan B wouldn't work well with your wife, maybe consider a Controlled Separation. Similar, but for a specific amount of time and designed to help couples work as a team during the separation period. Lee Raffel wrote the book.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Greengables, Thanks for the reply & advice. I know all these things, but for some reason I can't bring myself to doing them. I thought this time around would be easier / better, but I feel so completely alone and worthless, it's just like before, the difference is this time I'm more in control of my emotions, but I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.
Thanks again
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