How come there is all kinds of reading and material on what to do if the FWS sees FOP, but there is nothing to help the BS deal with seeing the FOP?

something should definitely be written on how to react when you are surprised with a face to face encounter. I mean I know how I wanted to react <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />, but I just wasn't sure what I should do. Not to mention I had DD12 with me.

Anyone notice that there isn't really much on contact between the OP and BS <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />?

HINY

Here's what I did.

I made up a mental image of her in my mind as a big fat house fly ... annoying and pesky and dirty ... and when I might see her by accident, I would *swat* the air to get this pest away from me.

I took control over her image that way and gave her absolutely zero power in my life beyond that of a common pest. A fly.

It's been years and years since I ran into her ... but I have my fly imagery ready at a moments notice.

Pep<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

OMG, Hopeful:

What did you do?

I've had such encounters.

I think NC is the rule.

Turns out the FOW in my case is a coward. She seemed scared. In my closest encounter, I stared her down. It was my impromptu response.

Just read PEP's response. NASTY AND DIRTY HOUSEFLY! I love this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

OMG! Pep you are soooo funny! That was really good and I am totally going to use it from now on sorry!

Mimi,

Well we were walking down the hall to the restroom in the county building and I looked up and here she came. She looked at me and I looked at her, well I glared at her like daggers were flying out of my eyes into her head. She looked down and continued on her way as we did. But what I felt like doing was the WWF smackdown....LOL!

Did really well I think all in all. I was just curious why Harley doesn't have anything for the BS and how to react in sitch's like that? I absolutely did NC. I felt like having physical contact though. I wonder if I should tell FWH that I saw her and that it was horrible and how bad I am hurting from it? Would you?

HINY

Right now, I'm hoping that OW will be sacked and deported from the UK, so that the problem will never arise.

As this is unlikely to happen, and WH and OW live only 1/2 mile away (such sensitivity) I'm facing up to the fact that I may end up doing time for the b!t@h when our paths cross.

Then again, she's much bigger than me. Rather hefty, in fact. No way I'd beat her in a one-to-one.

Alph.

BTW - violence is never the answer, kids! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

This is what I do when I get within ear shot of OM:

Me: {sniff} {sniff} What's that SMELL???

(after looking around): Oh! Human waste!!

WAT

I find the WWF smackdown tempting, but I wouldn't want to catch any nasty diseases. Plus, my MOW outweighs me by about 50 pounds, I hear. I do lift weights, though, so I could probably take her arm wrestling. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Besides, one of us is a lady (that would be me) and would not participate in actual physical violence. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

All very good advice. Thank you! And thanks for the laughs too.

HINY

This is all written up in a script somewhere!



THIS WAS EXACTLY MY EXPERIENCE! WORD FOR WORD! UNBELIEVABLE!

I carry a baby sledge hammer and a can of mace in my car 'just in case'.

If I meet OM and he is not with his GF or son I will hurt him very badly indeed. Its been a while but I use to be pretty good at that sort of thing.

If he is with his GF or son I will leave as quickly as I can.

Mimi,

That is soo weird! You just can't explain how you feel after something like that happens. I feel as though dday just happened all over again. Oh the grossness of it all! If you only knew who and what she was.

Bob,

I probably would have growled or barked, but I had DD12 with me. She had a purple scrub on, she must have come from her new job as a dentist assistant. Honestly she looked like really big barney.

I know what you mean though. I used to feel so much anger towards her, and now I pity her really. She is so needy and has no self esteem (I read some of her letters she wrote H). Honestly I have no words to describe how I feel about her.

HINY

HINY, OM in my sit is really beneath contempt. He has three ex wives, each one stolen out of a pre--existing marriage by an affair, and estranged child with each, then when he settled with his current GF he gave up work to sponge off her so he wouldn't have to pay maintenance to his XWs and his estranged kids. His 21 YO estranged son died a virtual stranger to him last year. And he planned to use the funeral as a weekend away with Squid.....

He makes pocket money making illegal copy CDs and DVD, and selling 'chipped' cable boxes on pub car parks.

He is old, short, very ugly, almost incoherently inarticuate.

A real catch. I bet his mouth watered when Squid responded to him...

So in truth he is a vile person, but I do still hate him yes. I pity him in a way, but a pig that rolls in sh*t does so deliberately.

I am almost annoyed that his GF and son are so lovely. He doesn't deserve them.

Bob,

The OW here wasn't that bad, but definitely wasn't good either. She is pretty much the town ho if you know what I mean. Been around the block a few times. This wasn't her first married man either. But H just got sucked in....

HINY