My H left me 7 months ago saying he is not sure if he loves me. He said he is unhappy at home at work. Since that time we have gone to counselling to no avail. He has come home for special occcasions like xmas, we went away with the kids for march break but every time he still leaves again saying he is not ready to come home. He feels that we have relationship issues that have to be resolved before he can come home. Of course after 7 months of this now I am confused on what I want. I have a hard time understanding why he left and he really has no answer. He now says he can't come home because I have issues and won't stop bringing up the past and forget the past 7 months. I feel that he is saying this to alleviate his guilt and that he really does not want to come home. He tells me he wants to make this work but never walks the walk. I do not want to live the rest of my life with someone who truly does not love me, I keep looking for signs that he truly deeply wants to make this work but I have just not seen it. I called his bluff the other day and said that I would forget the past and to just move home. This occurred during a session we were having with my parents. Anyway he tried to come up with excuses but in the end agreed and supposedly is coming home on Friday although I am waiting for him to back out. Do I want him home? I just don't know anymore. We have been without him for 7 months and we are doing okay in fact the house seems less tense. I have lots of support and many good friends that have stood by my side and they all say I am strong and will be all right and possibly better off without him. He is not abusive or he is not cheating he is just a man who is very driven to succeed and that takes priority. He is not capable of sacrificing for anyone else. Basically he wants to do things his way with no interference. Either way that I go is so scary to live with him or without him!!! Any Advice?

My honest opinion! Tell him moving in on Friday might not be such a great idea that your not sure if you can handle bieng second best all the time and that in fact things are a better without him home. Then stop all communication with him, make yourself unavailable, if he wants to get a hold of you he will, let him be the one who wants to move home. Stop begging if your making it a game then it will remain a game for him also. It seems like your there for him whenever he has downtime xmas, march break ect. Stop bieng the best of both worlds for him make him work for you not you for him.