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Should I still keep in contact?
#1396615 06/02/05 11:56 AM
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Finally after many months of not speaking H and I are finally talking. He is still with OW, they share OC (supposedly as no DNA test was done). Right now we are communicating as friends.
I still want a future with H but not sure how to go about this at this point. I feel as long as OW is in the picture she will always have control of H because of OC. He adores that little girl.
Plan B was so very hard. I missed H terribly. He wrote me a letter and said he missed me too, still wanted a future with me but didn't want to give me any hope right now. Whatever that means.
So where do I go from here? [color:"purple"] [/color]
Re: Should I still keep in contact?
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He wrote me a letter and said he missed me too, still wanted a future with me but didn't want to give me any hope right now. Whatever that means.

Here's what I think it means:

1. Don't get your hopes up.
2. He still cannot 100% commit to either of you.
3. He has no plans what-so-ever.
4. His long term goal setting leaves a lot to be desired (gross understatement)
5. He wants to keep you hanging, dangling, waiting, all-the-while meeting some of his ENs forever into the future, with no return effort made on his part. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

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Re: Should I still keep in contact?
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Just curious ... what do you require of your friends?

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Cake Eater.

Next he'll be asking for sex.

Set boundries.
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return to plan B he is toxic to your soul...are you two still married....

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I would say in your situation you may be better to move on with your life. Sorry to have to say that, I know it hurts.

The first concept of Reconciling is "No Contact."

This would be Impossible in your situation because of the child.

Unless the two of you moved faaaaaaaaaaaaar away I can't see an honest relationship with OW still in the pic.

Truly sorry.

Andrew

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