Hi. Thanks so much for the replies to my post about calling OW. I am not so sure that was such a good idea, but it may change the course of this A one way or another.

I do know her mother's name and phone number. Should I contact her now ? I am thinking that as long as I can keep my cool and remain calm (unlike OW and I did) this call certainly can't hurt matters. I could appeal to her woman to woman and at least expose her daughter who is 29 having an affair with a married man 50 years old. I have no idea how much, if anything her mom knows.

MB principles says to expose. And I think the time is ripe for this now. He certainly has his hands full with my phone call to her the other night. Calls between the OW an my WH are hitting an all time high. I suppose that is not good so maybe it is time to call her mother. The only family member number that I have.

Please advise on this exposure. My WH is being quite nice to me today but has really decided to turn in the key to this truck in two weeks, when his home time comes up. Which he reuested to be a week early. grrrrr Please help. I feel like I am losing the war here.

Thanks so much, I will be unable to go online this evening as I am babysitting grandkids at their house tonight. Will check messages tomorrow. Thanks again.

Carnation

Do you have proof to offer OW's mother? Are the cell phone bills proof enough? Can you give them to her upon exposure? I am very much in favor of exposing but not without proof. Too easy for OW to paint you as insane.

Will you expose to his parents (other family members) also?

yes.

Who else will you be telling? Do it all at once.

Yes, I would do it now and get it all over with. Carnation, what does he plan on doing when he quits his job? I am confused because if he comes home, that would end his ability to talk to the OW impeded.

What happened with Plan B?

Carnation:

I called my FWW's OM and left him an irate voice message to let him know I knew who he was. He didn't care because he was agressively pursuing my wife and was happy to have me be pissed. Your post caught my attention because of the age difference in your case. My FWW's OM was 28 yrs old and my wife was 46.

I called the OM's parents and asked them to have their son quit his job, since I was told he hated it anyway, at my wife's place of employment. Here is what happened: The parents immediately blamed my wife for the affair and they said their son will never quit his job because of my wife. They called their son and told him the same thing. The OM then told my wife he will not quit the job he hated for her. He proclaimed his love for my wife but he wouldn't go that far for his love for her. Their relationship finally showed a flaw.

This dispute showed my wife the OM's self serving ego and my wife even felt a sense of betrayal since she loved him, her job, and he hated his job. He was actually looking for a job and quit looking after I asked the parents to have him quit his job.

My wife eventually quit her job to insure NC but the exposure worked because it disrupted their romance by adding a dose of reality to their relationship. I further threatened to expose them to everyone in the family and the workplace causing my wife to buckle, quit her job, and slowly come back to me.

So many BS's are afraid to expose but I think it is the best tool available to a BS. The affairs flurish in secrecy and when scrutinized, the lovers become uneasy. I hope this helps you some.

TooSoon