Orchid:

I never was making reference to any of YOUR posts.

I agree with most everything that you are saying on this thread!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Mimi,

Sorry for the confusion. I was referring to TopPope's quote.

You have been doing well in helping others. Just wanted to let you know and thank you for all your support out here.

Mahalo,
L.

Well, I didn't start snooping until it became VERY apparent that there was something that she didn't want me to see. I knew she'd been IMing someone online, but had no idea how much/long/how far the talks had gone. I came home a few minutes early one day, and came down the steps VERY quickly (had that 'gut' feeling), so that she didn't have time to end her chat session. She minimized the window...and while I didn't ask her to, she deliberately did NOT let me see what was in the window. I kept watching, and she was discreetly looking over to see if I was watching, and finally got the window closed before I could see what was in it. THAT was my clue that there was a problem...later that same nite, I hacked her IM account and enabled archiving...it was a few days later that I was able to go back in and see their chat logs...and that was d-day.

Had I NOT done what I did, it would have gone to PA within a few weeks at most, as they were already planning on when/where/how to meet. But, since I caught them when I did, it escalated the situation, and brought the EA to a close within a few weeks.

My wife was never furious with me for catching her...but she WAS furious a few weeks later when she realized I was still checking up on her...due to her intermittent contact with OM via emails. But once THAT ended, and she no longer had anything to hide, she's been completely comfortable with knowing that I have complete visibility to EVERYTHING that happens on the computer and phones. How's that saying go?? "Those who have nothing to hide..."

Orchid:

<peace, peace>

Not really sure why your thinking I'm calling YOU out specifically.
Your having a reaction, but I'm not sure exactly why?

I was just chiming in on ML's thread and simply wanted my question answered BY ANY Poster that Does have a Problem with what I did or In my Recommending it to others in my similar position.

If there is some reference or code that you think "means YOU" ....well it was totally unintentional and I frankly have NO Idea what it is.
[Unless perhaps you were someone that came on strong on a previous thread].
Truly I don't know if you did or Not.
But Not that I remember.

Sorry for any mix-up, but Never my intention:
However, if you want to clue me in, I'd be happy to read it.
(But watch the top POPE's stuff).

However, that STILL leaves my question to those who do have a Negative reaction to these types of kits .....just let me KNOW your logic and reasons as to why so Strong Against?

My DH, TO THIS DAY, has no idea how I know what I knew and I will never tell him. He wouldn't DARE ask me and the few times that he has asked "are you spying on me?" I responded with "you bet your [censored]!" Subject closed!

I don't snoop on him anymore because I trust him now, [99% trust, that is] but if I had a feeling I wouldn't hesitate to turn the spyware back on.

Is it worse to know or not to know...
If you have your doubts/guts and your WS hides/lies/worse accuse you of being paranoiac, how else would you learn the truth...

Eh TR,

I did write TopPope. LOL!!! I was rushing off to work and this dump post kept giving me problems. LOL!!!

Didn't mean to call you TOP POPE (unless u want t/b one). LOL!!!

I know I didn't post to that effect, just wanted to tell you I don't disagree with what you did.

Changing your poster name, now that was a mistake on my part. Sorry ez. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.