I didn't need anything super sentimental...just an e-mail would have been nice but WH couldn't even muster that. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised after he treated me like a complete jerk last year on my b-day (last year, he attempted to take me out but was very cold, wore sunglasses during dinner, I had to force conversation, he gave me an unwrapped gift bought at lunchtime, and he left me in the parking lot crying saying he had laundry to do). Even so, I found myself hoping for at least a b-day message this year. The good news is that I had a blast in South Florida with some friends of mine so for the majority of my birthday, I wasn't thinking of WH.

Has anyone else's WH's ignored b-days? How did you cope? Is this something I should expect ongoing or just as long as he is with OW? Just seems like a courteous gesture to wish a friend/significant other happy b-day...but I suppose our WS's lack clarity and many, including mine, have not really shown any remorse for their disgusting and hurtful actions. I just don't get it and don't think I ever will.

Cheers,

Muels

HELL---I HAD A FAITHFULL MARRIED HUSBAND IGNORE BIRTHDAYS!!!!!
LOL--ITS A GUY THING...man am i gonna get bashed for that one!LOL smile, its your birthday and you shouldnt even think about this stuff on or around b-days!

Yeah...I suppose so. We were together for 5 years and he forgot last year...said something like, isn't your b-day sometime soon? He also put the wrong wedding date on the divorce papers...what a f*ckin moron! Sorry, there are only a few dates that are necessary to remember and b-day/anniversaries are BIG...can't be that hard, can it? And FYI, he never forgot these dates when we were married...was he just acting stupid to piss me off?

Happy Birthday!!!

Heck, my WH put the wrong date for his own birthday on some legal papers recently!

I think some men could only remember a birthday if they caught a really big fish on that day and had their picture in the paper. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> (Ducking the rocks that soon will come my way) You have to remember he's in an addction that prevents him from thinking about anybody but himself.

Muels, I sent sparrow flowers and a card on our 10th anniv., and I sent her a four-leaf clover (don't ask how long it took me to find one) in a card for her birthday, which she spent in Ireland. I skipped Xmas. I didn't get an effin' thing from her as any of those events passed. Zip, darlin'.

GC

My xWS always remembered my birthday and our anniversary when we were married. He always got me a beautiful card and a gift, or we went out for dinner.

We've been divorced for three years. We share no birth children. He lives with the OW (never married) and their 3 year old son. He still remembers my birthday and our x-anniversary......and calls me on those days...while he continues to live with the OW and their child!!!

A friend of mine had a similar situation. Her husband left her for another woman. Since they had children together some contact occurred, but mostly about the children. On their would-have-been 25th wedding anniversary, he left a beautiful floral arrangement for her out on her deck. He left a card that said he would always love her, but she was a strong woman and the other woman needed him more. WTF???!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

kjb -

Is today your Bday?

If so, it is mine, too!

Cool, huh?


Not a peep from my WW, btw.

Didn't expect it, though. My MIL did call, which I figured she would not do, as she defends her daughter to no end....


Happy Bday!



TM

My birthday was back in April. Not a word from WW. IL's did call though. I guess we shouldnt be surprised though. This is the kind of thing that speaks to integrity, honor, class, concern for another human being. All of which we know WS's are deficient in. The A is the most selfish, hurtful thing someone can do. Not acknowledging a birthday or an anniversary ranks way below the A on the scale of abhorent behavior.



"the wheels are turning on the last train to Amsterdam"
Ray Wylie Hubbard

Thanks TM....Gemini's rock! I also am shocked that I didn't receive any form of gesture from my STB XMIL. I bought her a nice garnet pendant for her b-day even after all the [censored] her son put me through because in my mind, our friendship should not be affected by her son's bad choices. I guess I am just an evil person who couldn't save her son and now am forever banned from her family....mmmm, did she only love me for the role I played as wife to her son? It appears that she has moved on to loving/supporting OW, who perhaps will bear her grandchild (she desperately wants them).

Anywho, happy b-day!!!!

Cheers,

Muels

Hey GC...yeah, I put together a mix of significant songs that we shared over the years as well as wrote him a poem for his b-day in November. Did I get any response...nada! Last year on our anniversary, I put together an album with all our best pictures, his journal entries to me, my poems to him, and any special cards we had given to each other...his response: thanks for the book. He got me zip although he did attempt to take me out which turned out to be just an emotional mess. I also sent him a x-mas card with no return. Hopeless as long as he is manipulated by OW.

Cheers,

Muels

Muels -

As the saying goes..."Blood is thicker than water..."

My MIL confessed that if the roles were reversed and I cheated on my WW, she would have hated me forever. But this is her little innocent girl, whom she will always defend, and can do no wrong. "She was just so unhappy...no one should go through life so unhappy...."


AAAAARRRRRGGGGGGHHHHH!!!


Sad that some people will justify the unjustifyable.


TM