I was reading the post right before mine and realized that I have something good to brag about too. I first posted something here a few days ago and received nine responses. All of them were positive on trying to rebuild my marriage. Everything I had heard from any other source was negative. I started to really look at my marriage and friendship with my husband as something I wanted to save. Today, I told my husband, "You know, it's been two days since we've had an argument about anything. It feels good doesn't it?" He said, "It's funny. I was just thinking the same thing. I think we've gotten our psychic link back. Ha Ha!" He also said he was glad he was able to finally have his best friend back and not just a wife who is as distant as I have been for the past seven months. I have to say it feels good having my best friend back too. Now, if we can work on regaining the trust, we'll be okay I think. Thanks for all the support!

WOW! <P>I pray for that day...<P>~Sheryl<P>------------------<BR>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<BR>

Good for you! I'm so happy for you. Keep up the good work - you're DEFINITELY getting there.<P>lori

Hurtone, when we realize that we're on our way to better days. Great news!<BR>Trust will be back, it has to be given a chance for a bit, but it comes back.<BR>Keep posting<BR>Take care<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

hurtone,<BR>Some stages really hurt, and some are Great. We need the good ones to keep us going. I have been in recovery for 19mo., been through an awful lot! Glad to hear that you are doing well, and you and your H see that it can work. TIME, but it seems to go so slow. You must be developing some compassion for your H. That seemed to be the turn around for me, when I realized that we still had a lot of future ahead and I didn't want it to be agony anymore. When I stopped reminding my H about his Bad Brain Period, (my H also didn't know why, also said it had nothing to do with anything I had done, also said he always loved me) so the only time he remembered was when I reminded him, why would I want to do that? You will always feel some hurt, he will always feel guilt, but you have so much together, don't waist time being totally unhappy, don't worry if there are some more ups and downs, you are only human, marriage is work, rebuilding is work, you can do it! Some of it will really be fun!<BR>Almost <P>--------<BR>TIME

Thanks guys. H and I had a really good morning. He came home from work and we went out for breakfast. We have laughed and joked with each other more in the past couple days than we have in the past couple months. It was almost as if I could feel some of the resentment just let go all at once. I know we will still have our ups and downs, but for right now it's better. Once I realized that I was either going to have to let myself be happy with my husband again or leave, the decision was easy. If you say you are going to work on your marriage to make sure this never happens again, you might as well have fun while you're doing it. I know that is not easy for everyone, (keep in mind, this is coming almost eight months after discovery). I guess it's getting easier for us because we decided to get back to the wonderful friendship we had before we got married. Hope it continues to go this well, but if it doesn't, I'm sure you guys will be the first to know.