[color:"pink"] [/color] I need answers and thats why I'm here. I'm married and I have twin babies with my husband...My husband and I got together early in life. We fell in love and both lost our virginities to eachother. I got pregnant early in our relationship and we got married a couple months after I gave birth. We have been married for 3 years and seperated for 1. I am still madly in love with him but I don't tell him...The whole time we have been seperated, we have been having relations except for about 1 month ago he got a girlfriend and we stopped.
Since he is young and so am I, I am letting him live his life hoping that he will find his way back home. I would like some male opinions in regards to what I should do...He still calls me and plays games...the other day he called me and out of nowhere and said.."You never want me to be happy"..He also called me the other day and we laughed and made jokes. I spoke to him last night he he asked me if I loved him in an indirect manner. What does that mean? I just admitted to myself that I am still in love with him...
Will he venture back eventually...does he still think about me...what do I do?

There seem to be some serious issues. Why did the two of you separate in the beginning? Why did you continue to have relations after separation? Why aren't you concerned about this girlfriend? I guess I would be wondering about the girlfriend more than I would be wondering if he would eventually be coming back. It sounds as though there have been no boundaries in place with this marriage.

hey jus.....
whew....i envie you and the child sitch but not the M sitch...H calls because he most likely feels something for you but also guilt....he probably feels better to himself when he calls because he apparently can control you and get away with whatever he wants and he feels better about himself knowing that....
i would lay down some rules and boundaries....whatever way you want this to work out you have to specify that and make the rules accordingly....but i would not let him have his cake and eat it too
if you love him tell him...if you want it to work back into a marriage ,tell him....then set the rules
dont play anymore games though under any circumstance...

THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSES....WELL, I AM TERRIFIED OF BEING REJECTED BY HIM AGAIN. I AM OF THE CHRISTIAN FAITH AS WELL AND THAT MAY BE ONE OF THE REASONS I DON'T WANT TO LET GO. I AM WONDERING ABOUT THE GIRL...AS A MATTER OF FACT MAYBE TOO MUCH ( HE DOESN'T KNOW THIS). WE SPLIT UP BECAUSE BEING IN A YOUNG RELATIONSHIP IS HARD AND WE BOTH DIDN'T FULLY UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT OF TOGETHERNESS IN A MARRIAGE AT SUCH AN EARLY AGE. EVEN THOUGH I AM STILL YOUNG, I AM MORE AWARE OF THE MISTAKES I HAVE MADE AND WANT NOTHING MORE THAN FOR HIM TO KNOW THIS...I AM VERY SCARED OF TELLING HIM THAT I LOVE HIM BECAUSE I THINK HE MAY REJECT ME OR TELL ME HE'S TOO IN LOVE WITH HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND. I MADE A DECISION THIS PAST SATURDAY TO LEAVE MY LIFE IN THE HANDS OF GOD AND SEE WHERE HE LEADS ME..WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?..THANK YOU FOR YOUR FEEDBACK AND QUESTIONS. GOD BLESS

You should read through some of the material on the website here and maybe so of the other posts people have made. It may give you a little more insight into things to think about.

Fear of rejection is not good for anyone. But if the fear is too great it could mean the person is not secure enough with themselves and may need to seek ways to become more confident and secure about who they are.

Being a Christian I can understand the concept of not wanting to let go of a marriage, but it also means standing up for your marriage too. It's setting healthy boundaries and sticking to those boundaries. I would think some would be knowing your expectations, such as what you want in the marriage, support, he should be home, no infidelity, etc., otherwise if he can't keep the boundaries then it can lead to divorce. It's not a threat, it's letting him know what you expect in a marriage.

And you cannot control somone else. You can tell someone you love them and what your expectations are, but you cannot make them say I love you back, nor can you make them follow the expectations. That is where you need to be strong and be ready to follow through with whatever you must do.

Keep praying that God will send you wise counsel. And God bless you.

I PRAY THAT GOD LEADS ME IN THE DIRECTION THAT HE WANTS ME TO GO...HIS WILL BE DONE. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE SEPERATED, I JUST THINK HE'S ON THE REBOUND WITH THIS GIRL...I AM NOT ALLOWING HIM TO DISRESPECT ME, WHAT I AM ALLOWING IS FOR HIM TO LIVE HIS LIFE AND IF IT LEADS BACK TO ME THEN SO BE IT....DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?
ANYWAYS, THANK YOU VERY MUCH AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU AS WELL. ONE DAY I WILL BE HAPPILY MARRIED AS WELL..WHETHER IT BE WITH MY CURRENT HUSBAND OR WHO EVER GOD PUTS IN MY PATH...GOD BLESS