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To those who have supported and inspired me, I just want you to know I had an amazing date with my H tonight. It's the happiest I've felt in a long, long time.

Thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Whisper

FWW (me) 32 / BH 33
M - 12 yrs / 0 kids
EA/PA lasted 1.5 yrs
NC - 5/25/05 ... in recovery ever since!!!

"If you love something, set it free ..."
(Just glad I was smart enough to come back!)
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What I meant to say is ... thanks for not giving up on me.


Whisper

FWW (me) 32 / BH 33
M - 12 yrs / 0 kids
EA/PA lasted 1.5 yrs
NC - 5/25/05 ... in recovery ever since!!!

"If you love something, set it free ..."
(Just glad I was smart enough to come back!)
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That is great news whisper. If you and your H continue this way, I've no doubt that both of you will have a happier and healthier marriage than the pre-A one. God bless both of you.

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One can only hope and dream!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Whisper

FWW (me) 32 / BH 33
M - 12 yrs / 0 kids
EA/PA lasted 1.5 yrs
NC - 5/25/05 ... in recovery ever since!!!

"If you love something, set it free ..."
(Just glad I was smart enough to come back!)
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Dear Whisper,

I’m glad you had such a wonderful date with your H on Saturday night. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Thanks for sharing the good news! You know, I have much hope for you and your H! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Whisper, in spite of you and your H's good progress, I want you to stay realistic: Remember, sometimes recovery can be like an emotional roller coaster ride – sometimes 3 steps forward and then 2 steps back… So, if you and your H may experience some setbacks again in future, don’t give up and just continue to work through the 'problems' and talk it through. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God Bless,
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I am SO pleased for you and your H !

My own experience is that over time , with love and effort those joyous times become the default and help you cope with the painful times.

Support your BH over the long time W. His gig is a very very hard one, even on great days like you just had.

{{{{{W & H }}}}}


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Thanks!! And, yes, we had some long discussions this weekend re: goal-setting, realistic expectations and the hard times to come. The good news is we both have our wedding rings back on and, instead of saying, "if" we can work things out, we're staring to say "when". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Whisper

FWW (me) 32 / BH 33
M - 12 yrs / 0 kids
EA/PA lasted 1.5 yrs
NC - 5/25/05 ... in recovery ever since!!!

"If you love something, set it free ..."
(Just glad I was smart enough to come back!)

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