been 2 weeks since my husband started drinking and walked out on me and our children for a woman he was seeing over 20 yrs ago before we got together. Our life was in no way perfect..alot of struggles, mostly financial, but we always had each other. He'd always tell me "as long as we're together, we'll be ok, we're like two peas in a pod", and we were..we did everything together. My sister-in-law commented that we were everyone's roll model. But after his car accident in Nov..things really got tough..bills piled up, everything was getting disconnected, and even though it was a long slow process..he was healing from his surgery. His friend was making him a partner in his drilling business..finally it seemed out finacial troubles were going to come to an end and we'd be ok for the rest of our lives..then came the depression..then the drinking, and within a week of his starting to drink..the ex g/f..this is a small town..everyone knows everyone..and we all know how she is..she's always been the type to go from man to man, 3 kids by 3 different men (my husband is the father of her oldest, now grown)..one of her son's she didn't want and gave to her mother to raise. He became friends with our oldest..and a few days after my husband left us..this kid came over and stood in our yard telling my daughter that his mother is a whore, and she's always been a whore then started nameing off a bunch of men she used and threw away. At first my husband was in this 'fog', a person i didn't recognize, no expression in his eyes..then he'd come around to see the kids, and one day we'd argue..the next we'd get along..my emotions were a rollercoaster. The other morning he came over, the boys were still asleep, he told me he was going to stop drinking..we got along good that day..laughed, talked..it was nice..seemed like, at least to me, he was starting to miss us..gave me a tight hug before he left. It felt real good...then yesterday it all changed..i wasn't in the best mood and we didn't get along very well..he asked me what i wanted from him, but i didn't want to argue..he took the boys with him so they could stay over night with him but before he left he asked if i was going to file for divorce, i told him no..that it was too soon..it's only been two weeks...then he dropped the bomb..told me if i didn't file...he was going to!! i was shocked..how could he just toss a 21 yr relationship and marriage away in a matter of 2 weeks time..how could he possibly be 'in love' with this woman so fast? i'm not sure now if he was thinking of a way to tell me the other day when we were getting along so well, was i reading more into all that then there was??? i'm so confused and crushed right now, i don't know what to do or think..he was my life!!! Please tell me what to do
