Hi,

After speaking to myWH last Friday about the NC letter he still has not made a decision as to writing it.

As a matter of fact i know for a fact that he has spoken to her in the last couple of days, as to if he has seen her i don't konw for a fact but i am betting that he has.

I also know for a fact that i need to do plan b because he will not just leave her.

Up to this morning i was talking to his sister and she told me that it is time i make up my mind because i am allowing him to have his cake and eat it.

I am deciding on plan b and the truth is there is a part of me that is scared to make that move because i keep thinking " what if he doesn't come back?" but there is also a part of me that knows that i have had enough and that i need to do this or i will compromise everything that i believed in, although i think that by staying for so long that maybe i have already done that.

i desprately need to move on so i have decided to go to plan b and to do that i need a plan b letter. Please help me anyone.

Thanks
Sindy

Dear Sindy,

Here is Sample Plan B Letter .

Could you afford to talk to MB's or Cerri to help evaluate your situation ?. How long have you been in plan A ?. What is your plan A ?.

Later -rh-

Sindy - are you and your H already living apart?

Plan B doesn't work well at all for you unless you are - you need to isolate yourself from him and that's dern impossible while still under the same roof.

Hi redhat

I have been in plan A since the middle if November last year which makes it juat about six months now. For a while during plan A i beleived that the A was over it is not until about two weeks ago that i found out and had proof that he had either started seeing her again or that he had never stopped.

the whole mess has been going on for a goood while now an i am just fed up of the lies, the hurt, the deceit and everything else.

In my pplan A i did not harass him, i made plans ofr my family and everytime i included him ,if he did not go i went anyway, i was actually happy in plan a because i was doing things that i wanted to do.

Sindy

Get your plan B letter written and post it here on a new thread asking for critique.

good luck

Pep

I see. I just want to make sure that you feel that you have done everything that you could to salvage this M.

Like Pep's reply, post your own plan B letter and let us put our 2 cents. However this is just one of the thing that you have to do in plan B. WAT mentioned the rest ... logistics of plan B. You have to be separated to do this, you basically have to ask him to leave. You have to have your financial plan together. Who would be your intermidiary ?.

-rh-