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Hi guys,
When I was in high school the editor of our school yearbook wrote a letter posted at the end it was entitled "Swan Song". Somehow I was envious. I wished that I could write a "Swan Song" too...so here's mine.
I have been posting since October of 2001(?) or there abouts. I came here struggeling from the aftermath of an A. Many posters came with words of encoragement and I got my fair share of 2X4's as well. I am greatful for both. MB was a place of refuge for me and I feel that I have gained some dear friends here. Some that I can say that I feel like I know better than others(like that one 20lbs lighter <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />). There certainly been others as well...too many to mention or for my feeble memory to recall.
Mrs Hiker and I have experienced "recovery". The recovery has been difficult and to be honest I must say it isn't perfect.
Since MB went to the new board Mrs Hiker thought I had stopped posting and she says she "felt better" because of it. Here in lies the main ingrediant for my "Swan Song". My main reason for being here was to help Mrs Hiker feel better about me and our marriage. She still has her doubts and fears but if I can help her to feel better by leaving MB then I must leave.
I could be stubborn and say that I need to be here and that there are still issues for me and us to continue to work on. But what still comes back to me is that leaving will help my W to feel better...it's cheaper than a box of candy and a spray of flowers.
I will lurk every now and then and I'll probably even update you periodically. I'll have to find another way to keep my face out of the fridge...maybe I'll become a gourmet or a wine taster or something...I know...I'll go hang out on the trail.
If you pass me give me a wink. Please accept this as my parting gift. It would be nice to have you over but I guess we'll have to settle for this. I will miss you.
Sincerely, Hiker
A lot closer to home
ME WS
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If leaving MB forum helps your marriage I say go for it
Much love and joy for you
Pep<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Hiker,
You may not remember me, but you gave me some much needed words of encouragement when I first started posting here.
I wish you and your wife all the best.
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
Divorce almost final - I hope!
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Hiker, all the best to you and your W! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Blessings, Suzet
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Hiker,
All the best to you and Mrs Hiker. I hope you are able to drop by once in a while and give us an update. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Hi Hiker,
I'm glad you got to a comfortable place for both you and your W about this. I'm sorry I missed your farewell, and do hope you get to say howdy from time to time.
H and I were vacationing last few weeks; hiking in some of the most beautiful land on the planet (I think I started posting to you just because of your MB name). At one point I saw another couple and for some reason thought it could be you and the Mrs. I secretly wished you two well. And of course, not so secretly here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.
You dont really need us. We're just a safety net. You'll be fine.
Have fun and take care <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> - Dru
ps: dont go skimping on the wine, flowers and candy, now... they're still cheaper than about anything else for the results <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Last edited by Drucilla; 06/15/05 06:48 PM.
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((((Hiker and Mrs Hiker))))
I am wishing you the best, and the strength, determination and love necessary to keep your marriage happy, healthy and strong for many years to come!
Someone throw me a map already!
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Dear Mr & Mrs. Hiker,
Some of us who are in recovery have heard our Xws/spouses say similar. Mine did and I did stop posting for a few..... hours? LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
I let my H know that I post here for 2 reasons, to be helped and give help since that was what given to me in my time of need. I can say that I have been posting here since 2001 and my time posting back has almost caught up. I did drain a few here on this board waaay back when. LOL!!
What I told my H was that this board helped me when he chose not to. When he would choose to help me recover, then I would stop posting if that was his request.
Well he has come around and is helping me recover but he no longer feels threatened by my posting here. In fact he has been 'brave' enough to even meet a few MBers. Some of the frequent posters here he has met face to face on several occasions. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
But I do understand the need to respect her requests. All the best to the both of you and yes, please do stop by from time to time and let us know how you are doing.
Glad you are both in a happier place of mind and heart.
Aloha, L.
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