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Ok,
I've had 3 dates, many phone calls and emails with this guy, and I am still terrified to let him know that I like him, and would like to see where this relationship may go. What is wrong with me? I mean, I'm 46 years old for heaven's sake! I cannot keep myself from holding back and playing it very cool, which I fear will run him off. But on the other hand, I also that if I let him know that I'm very interested in him that I'll run him off. He calls me, he emails from time to time, we had a date last weekend, but I still cannot tell if he likes me!!!!!!! I cannot tell if he is interested as a friend, or more, and it's driving me crazy!!!
Do I just give it more time, and wait and see........
I think I already know the answer to this, but I wanted to see what you all think, and see if anyone else has felt this way.....
Thanks to all of you for your help/advice/empathy
KK
Me, 49
Divorced 3-13-03
son 21, daughter 18, daughter 16
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new
thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland” (Isa. 43:18, 19).
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I still cannot tell if he likes me
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I think he does not like you.
After all, he calls you, he emails from time to time, you had a date last weekend (with three dates total).
[Sarcasm mode off]
[Play mode on]
I gotta ask, how old are you, like 10?
Has he spit on you yet? That's always a good sign he does like you.
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NOTE - The preceding comments were meant only as thought provoking and made in jest. They do not reflect the views of Marriage Builders, Inc., Dr. Willard Harley, Steve Harley, Jennifer Harley-Chalmers, the National Football League, the United Nations, National Broadcasting Corporation or Ross Perot.
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Perhaps he is just as anxious about this as you are.
Yes, he does like you or else you would not have heard from him again & again.
Maybe he's going slow cause he doesn't wanna scare you off?
Maybe he's not sure where/if he wants it to go further?
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You made me laugh, Chris, thank you! Yes, I know, I know, it's like I'm 10 all over again, and I hate it!
Yes, you're right, he's probably anxious also, and unsure....bleh....
I need to lighten up and just have fun. I'm trying to meet other guys, so I won't obsess over it!
Thanks for listening. It's SO very nice to get on here and be able to vent and voice our concerns/obsessions/worries to people who know where I'm coming from!!!!
Maybe one day I will have my old confidence back.
KK
Me, 49
Divorced 3-13-03
son 21, daughter 18, daughter 16
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new
thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland” (Isa. 43:18, 19).
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You have teenage kids, so ask their advice. They may know more about dating than you do! At least you can have some fund with your friends, joking about their answers and advice.
Just another guy exploring middle age.
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