My wife and I are seeing IC's, and we're going to a MC together. My wife's IC seems to be advocating seperation and implies that our MC is unqualified to help us and he points to her have having even started seeing us so soon "into recovery" as one of his reasons why.
He states that another reason she's "unqualified" is due to fact I'm alcoholic and haven't had enough sobriety yet to start seeing a MC, and even then it must be a MC with deep knowledge in Addictions.
It's been a rocky road since January, but in the last three weeks, things have been going really good for us. I had moved out, but am now back in house spending time with each other, no arguing or fighting at all. Things seem to be slowing down. Less a blur of time, and more focused. We are committed to each other and are showing it in words and actions.
I thought the whole idea of IC's and MC's was to work on some things together and other things apart?
Why does my wife's IC seem so dead set on separation still?
"The Power Of Now" is a book our MC had us read and is using its theme in therapy. She tells us we need to enjoy the moment because that's all we really have is the moment. Past and future cannot be lived in she says.
The MC said she'd prefer we not even continue seeing individual IC's while seeing her if they are going to be offering advice on marriage instead of focusing on the individual.
If we want to be together and the MC we are seeing(who knows our whole story as does both IC's) thinks it's the right thing for us as well, who is right? The MC or IC?
