One WS appears. He's got what some around here call a broken heart and a contrite spirit. He's in agony for what he's done. He's dodged a huge bullet, but still does not know how to go on.

Another WS appears. She is untroubled by remorse. Knows enough to see that her AP isn't worth a damn, but says, "I'm cheating, which is okay. It's happening because something's wrong with my M, and my H, though a good guy, is just not blowing my skirt up". She's trying all the usual lame-brained solutions... moving out to get time to "think" and to "see" if she misses her H.

I know not all infidelity is created equal, but the contrast is striking.

GC

"I know not all infidelity is created equal, but the contrast is striking."

Contrast while "wondering if the vials of blood got mixed up at the lab..."

Cause to ponder, gc, especially for me today. I haven't felt at all too compassionate about the demise of the WS today.

And I thought it was going to be something like,

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,
it was the age of monagamy, it was the age of infidelity..."

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Definately a striking contrast there....I guess the difference can be boiled down to integrity...the integrity to admit you made a mistake, and make any and all amends for the damage you have foisted upon another, or many other human beings....

TM

Well, I'm not so sure TM. It was a lack of integrity that got them both into the situation that they're both in. Its more an admission of responsibility that seems to seperate the two of them.

Personally, until either of them manages to break the news to their BS's, I don't see anyone moving forward in things.

The difference between the two is the first person is more likely to come out in the end a better person. Even though he/she doesn't have an idea how to go on, there's help out there. They are at least aware that something is wrong and have a better chance to learn from their mistakes.

Now the second person is what my brother used to refer to is a "breeder." A breeder is someone whose only contribution to the world is reproduction. When I was younger it used to bother me when he would make these statements but the older I get, I can see there is some truth to it.

Some people never see beyond their own little world and are unable to care how their actions affect others. I don't know if they're just not capable or truly just don't care. Only God knows that.

Either way, I wouldn't want to be either person-knowing that only by the grace of God go I.