**snort** she emailed me. She DOES have download privledges. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

He is the administrater on the computer. That means I can't do anything on my sign in right?

OK Caren,

I am told that you know how to work around my limited access. . Any suggestions.

Thanks for all of your help ladies!

mererae

Caren, it won't let her download the software. Can you walk her through this?

If this doesnt work. . what do you think about contact OW's Husband. I think my H has her home number in his cell phone. That number would not be too hard for me to get.

I think OW's husband has a right to know about what is going on, especially since he didn't even know my H and OW were talking again.

Maybe she will tell her husband things that my H refuses to tell me.

Mererae

Mel says you can download, if you can download you're golden.

Okay....here's how you find out. Click your start button, go to *control panel*, once you're in the control panel, choose *user accounts*.......does it only list YOUR account there? Or is his account there too??? If his account is there, you are an administrator also, if it just lists your account, he's got you limited.

Lemme know,

-Caren

mere, I think calling the OW's H is Step 2. First we need to find out what is really happening here. If you call her now with your current load of information, she will just say they are just friends and you are a jealous wackjob. When you call him you need to be loaded for bear.

But, get the # in the meantime! And if he is calling her, get his cellphone bill and find out when. Find out how often. You might be able to go online and access his cell phone bills.

CAren, that was wrong info, Mere has since discovered she cannot download. She needs your help to get this downloaded.

Crud....he has her limited if she can't download.

That's something only he can change, unless she can figure out his main password, or convince him that she needs to be an administrator to download something else, like an instant messenger, or another program. Hopefully he won't say he'll do it for her.

He'd either give me more access, or I'd disable that computer.

As for getting her home number....absolutely get that, for future reference, if nothing else. (Do that unbeknownst to him and BEFORE you confront him about anything.)

I would, however, get more evidence if I were you before contacting him as OP's signifigant others aren't always so willing to believe a BS.

Dang, if I were there I'd access that thing, even if it took a hammer to do it.

Sorry I can't be of more assistance.....lemme look into it. I know that the same site that has the keylogger has a program to get passwords, but that doesn't really help you if you can't download anything.

Any chance he may walk away from the computer without getting out of his screen?? To go to the bathroom or anything??? If so jump on his name, do the control panel thing I told you about....practice it on your screen until you can do it FAST, then you could get in there and change your status....it's VERY self explanitory. You click on your account, it says "Change the account", you click that, and there is an option at the top of the screen to be an administrator or limited account, and you just mark the circle for administrator. Then get out of that and download the software really quickly on your name when you get a chance, before he notices that you've changed it.....if he ever does, I wouldn't think to check that.

-Caren

Meredith, why can't you just tell him to give you administrator access so you can download programs? How could he possibly object to that? Just tell him you need him to change you to administrator status so you can download things when you need to. He can't very well object without admitting he is hiding something.

p.s. act offended and concerned that he would set it up where you DON'T have download privledges!

I think that would be my first plan of action, to ask him to give you access. If he refuses, then you do what you have to do.

The keylogger program has a stealth mode, doesn't it?? So it doesn't show up in the program list and all that good stuff, right?

My husband is computer illiterate, for all intensive purposes, so I could put a keylogger on there that had a big icon with trumpets and he wouldn't get it...LOL....but alas, he never used the computer for contact, because, well the OW is computer illiterate too......Hell I accessed BOTH of their cell phone accounts. All I needed was her phone number, the last 4 of her social and her billing zip code...and I was all over it. (I screwed up when I was impatient --and sleepy to boot-- and called verizon and asked when their site would be updated, and they asked for my phone number and last 4 digits of the social and I transposed the numbers of the social....arrrgh..LOL, then verizon called her and she password protected the account). Oh well, such is life.

Sooooo tell me, do you both have cell phones on the same account?? (You and your husband) I would try to access it by the computer.....(If it's nextel you have to open the phone and get a number), it's alot more expediant than waiting for the cell phone bill. (PRINT IT ALL OUT AND KEEP IT SOMEWHERE SAFE--OUT OF THE HOUSE) Again.....I let my impatience get me here and took over the call list to my husband b*tching up a blue streak about why he was calling her so much (They can explain that all away...*we're just friends*...blah, blah).

Concrete evidence....and a lot of it, is what we're going for, do NOT be tempted to show him, or tell him about any of it, WAIT until you have an arsenal, that he won't be able to deny, and EXPOSE, EXPOSE, EXPOSE!!!

-Caren

Hi, Ladies.

Look, I understand the pressing need for details, but I want to press on you all, a few facts that I think you are overlooking.

The other woman's husband already knows that she has done it with mererae's husband before.

You won't have to convince him with details that she is doing it again. He is already worried about that very possibility.

Since other woman's husband already knows her history, he may already have immediate access to resources that you need.

Simply telling him "I saw my husband send a picture of his penis to your wife" should be all it takes for him to get in motion.

HE may blow the thing sky high all on his own. Most men would. The goal is to kill the affair, not find out as many details as possible.

With what has already transpired, the affair is already going underground, and mererae will be monitoring hubby's activities anyway.

All the best,
Gimble

Gimble, I think what is missing is evidence that it is an affair. And I don't think the penis picture, while certainly very suspicious, does that. If I were her, I would simply say "gee, the creep sent me a picture of his penis," and then go very deep to avoid detection. And when Mere's H finds out she called, it doesn't achive what she wants and only gives her H a platform from which to claim persecution since he knows she has no evidence.

I think they are having an affair, but I also think when she pulls the trigger, she needs to have a fully loaded gun as to better kill the affair. If not, then it is only a big miss and the perp gets away for another day and only becomes more clever in his tactics.

mererae

How's it going???? Give us an update.

-Caren

Um, he emailed another woman a photo of his penis. But sharing passwords with his wife is a violation of his privacy?

Gritting my teeth...

Dobie

Yeah, interesting logic, isn't it?

-Caren