**snort** I just love this guy! ROFL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well, I hope you don't force us to drag you to that wedding, Mister. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Would tranquilizer guns, a large net and a cage be required for such feat? I wonder... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

coach:

"Lots of very interesting eye candy…and please don’t anybody give me any ****. There’s nothing wrong with sitting and looking after all…in fact I’m kind of surprised…that I even have any interest. Just goes to show how meager the male attention span tends to be. It makes me wonder about myself. I can just envision me at 95 ….about ready to die…eyes closing for the last time…and me lifting my head to get my last look at some cute nurse’s butt! "

I dunno. Maybe I'll ask you again when you're 95 (but then I'll be 97 or more!).

Woody Allen once said something like:

"They can put a man on the moon, but if you put an 80 yr old man alone in a room with 2 18 year old cocktail waitresses, nothing happens! Because the really important things never change!"

-ol' 2long

coach, it would take a month of Sundays for me to tell you about all the crap that happened before my wedding--and I was engaged less than four months! I wanted to get married but not have a wedding--and elope. I regretted getting talked into it and wanted to cancel it every step of the way. Know what I remember the most? My father.

Right before it was time to walk down the aisle, my father said put everything that has happened out of your mind for this little while. THIS is what you wanted to do--get married. THIS is the time. Don't let anything take away from this part--it's really the only important part of the whole thing.

Btw, I could tell you stories about people's behavior at the reception too. Oh, and let's not forget the crap for weeks afterward. But what I remember first and foremost, even 25 years later, is the only part I wanted to do in the first place--the ceremony. And that wouldn't be a good memory if my father hadn't been there and been himself.

Give yourself time to make a decision coach. When it's time to make the decision, you'll be able to make the one that's right for you.

Take care <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Coach,

I can only imagine your hurt and frustration at, not only your wife's actions, but those of your daughter.

I think you should go to your daughter's wedding, but that is a decision you will have to make for yourself.

However, please keep in mind that Laura's wedding day is a one-time event and whatever you decide to do on that day cannot be undone.

My daddy refused to give me away at first, just as he refused to give both my sisters away. He was afraid of "making a fool of himself" by either breaking down or botching things up. Even knowing the reason for his refusal, I was still hurt. Finally, at lunch on the day of my wedding, he finally asked my older sister, "Well, if I WAS to give her away, what would I have to do?" My sister quickly told him that all he had to do was walk me down the aisle, say "Her mother and I do" in response to the preacher's question "Who giveth this woman in marriage?", place my hand in H's hand, and go sit down with Mother.

Well, he just sort of grunted, so we didn't push it any further.

At the last minute, just before time to escort Mother to her seat, he kissed me and extended his arm to me, saying, "Here!" And, he walked me down the aisle and gave me away.

That is the most treasured memory I have of our wedding. The rest of our wedding means very little to me, since I consider that my H rendered our vows null and void when he cheated...and especially since I now believe that he was carrying a torch for someone else when he married me.

When Laura reaches an understanding of the level of pain you are in at this moment, she will TREASURE the memory that, despite it all...including her despicable actions, her father came through for her on the most important day of her life.

Just make sure that your actions on this very special day are not ones that you would later wish you could undo.

LC

Coach,

I can't imagine a more cherished moment in life than walking a daughter down the aisle to give her away at her wedding.

I can't imagine how one might recover from "opting out" of such a time honored tradition. Such an act could taint your relationship with her for a lifetime. There's a lot at stake here, perhaps more than you have considered?

This isn't about you, Coach, this is ALL about your daughter.

And you know it.

Best wishes,
SD

Coach,

- GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER AWAY. Having read most of what you've ever written here @ MB (and all of this thread), you don't strike me as a "quitter". Complete what you started all those years ago...finish the job of being a father to your daughter. She may not appreciate it now, perhaps never will, BUT you can bet your last dollar that you will! Don't create a "if only" for yourself. If you're like most of us, there will be plenty enough of those in your old age.

- And, in the event you're still feeling confrontational or irascible when the wedding day arrives, look at it this way...DON'T GIVE THE BA$[censored]$ THE SATISFACTION! You're the father of the bride, don't allow anyone/anything prevent you from walking YOUR daughter down the isle.

I'm with the others here. Walk your daughter down the aisle and then opt out of the reception if you must.

Or, go to the reception just long enough the punch out the OM's lights and then retire gracefully. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Either way should work for you!

Jes' tryin' ta help,
Mulan

Will post later after I complete today's blog entry...just wanted to let everyone know that TODAY has been eventfull beyond anything I could have ever have dreamed and wished for.

I'm sorry to be criptic but it's to much to tell and right now I'm with my DD #3...Jill...who showed up at my door this morning...all the way from Portland! Appears the kids drew straws (so to speak)LOL to see who would get down here to deal with their mess of a father.

"And the children shall lead the parents"...hummmm or something like that. Is there such a biblical quote? If not there shoud be. LOL

Things are really better for me now no matter what. I am cared about. I am loved, respected, people worry about me, they are there to support me,...stuff like that...stuff you live a life time earning...but never know if you're good enough...or have done good enough...and now I'm crying and out of emotional control...I'm a total emotional wreck...I have feelings of such relief, gratitude and thankfullness...I am not a religious man but now I know that my God did not forget me...

I promis to write it all out and post today's blog entry later on.

Coach

Can you get pictures of WW and the Prof together from a PI? If so, they would make nice placemats at the reception <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

On a more serious note, walk you D down the aisle, give her away.

The reception is your call, but the wedding is a command performance for ya!

T

Hey Coach,
Know this: God is always with you walking every step you take, right along side of you.
Be patient and just wait and see how He is going to reveal His love for you. The best is yet to come!
All of His Blessings,
Jerry

Psalms 6:6-10
I am weary with my sighing;
Every night I make my bed swim,
I dissolve my couch with my tears.
My eye has wasted away with grief;
It has become old because of all my adversaries.

Depart from me, all you who do iniquity,
For the Lord has heard the voice of my weeping.
The Lord has heard my supplication,
The Lord receives my prayer.
All my enemies shall be ashamed and greatly dismayed;
They shall turn back, they shall suddenly be ashamed.

Coach:

Cool! I just KNEW it wasn't just US who cared about YOU!

best,
-ol' 2long

I just wanted to mention that I do have some hog-tying skills in case we need them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Take care dear Coach

We're all rootin' fer ya

Pep<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

My dear Coach,

I wrote out a 'short' reply to you last night but it disappeared. Oh well.

It was encouragement along with lines of others of being at your daughter's wedding. I know you know where I stand on this matter. Ok.

Now I would like to also add my support along with the rest of the group and say that I am happy your daughter came by to help. You s/b proud you have children who care enough to be there when the going gets tough.

While it may not be the end of it all yet (it never really is, right), it w/b another direction and hopefully one with a happier result (not ending 'cuz it ain't all over yet). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hugz and aloha from the Pacific,

Orchid

ps: Weddings put great stress on the bride and father of the bride. The rest of the wedding party have some stress also. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Probably why 2nd marriages usually are a lot more simple. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

HURRAYYYYYYY for Jill!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Tranquilizer gun, check
net, check
cage, check
dragging team, check
hog-tying skills, check

We are so very prepared.

Coach, I am so happy things seem to be looking better! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Put the hairspray away MelodyLane.

We don't need that for this mission... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />