its been about 5 munths sence i have posted. i think the last time i posted we had gone to M counciling, the W didnt know if she wanted to work on the M,that was in dec.
she said to me that she has tryed but their just isnt anything left in her for me.i dont konw how to do links or i'd link you to my old post.
she told me on 6-3 that she hired a lawer and almost had him payed for the D. she said that i can have the house and property,and that she was not going after childsupport.
we have talked about the bills as we were talking it seems she was wanting me to take almost all of them. but i told her ther is no way i could make it if i took what she wanted me to take. she said we will work it out.
since she told me she has been nice,we are buying household supplies for both of us for after the D. its odd,its like she cares what happens to me but dosent whant to be with me.
we have both said that we dont want to keep the kis away from the other,two boys 14and6,we are planning on joint phisical and legal custody.
i hope that that ansered some questions for you.
i'll start cheking the post more offten.
dmb1967

Is she still in an affair, dmb?

melody, not that i know of, she said that their isnt,and from me paying atention i dont beleive that their is either.
dmb

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Okay, dmd1967, there is a lot of missing information.

I don't really know how we can be of much help to you with the little information available and your tendency to post very infrequently, to start threads and then abandon them, etc.

Here's the first targeted, pertinent, question based upon your comments about prayer and God

Are BOTH you are your wife "born-again" Christians?

Next question; How does ONE visit to a Marriage Counselor qualify as "Marriage Counseling," especially when the idiot of a counselor's "best suggestion" is that your wife needs "indvidual counseling?"

IC is NOT generally focused on saving marriages, and neither are most "marriage counselors." You have to be very discriminating in choosing a competent counselor.

What have YOU done to change yourself from the person your wife felt was not "good enough" at meeting her EN's?

IF you want to stop this divorce and recover your marriage it is way past time when you need to stop dragging your feet and get busy!

well first off let me apologize for the infrequent post for the most part i don't get much time on the net.

as to the first Q. i am a baptized seventh day adventest.
but havent been in years,but i do pray almost every day.

my wife was brought up pentalcostal. but not gone since her childhood.

as to the counseling,you can't do much when the W shuts off and said that she can answer the questions allday long and it wont help. the counseler was trying to get to the W's issues.

and as for saveing this i dont think that it can be at this time. i hope that she will see that she was worng but i'm not holding my breath.

i guess that mostof my new post will be on the devorceed/devoricing post.

dmb.

my wife was brought up pentalcostal. but not gone since her childhood.

So I assume from this that your wife is not a believer. If you are, then you are in an unevenly yoked marriage.

Bottom line....we all need to be obedient to God's commands. If one does not accept Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior, obedience to God's commands is meaningless.

I would suggest that a starting point that might help you a little would be to get Michelle Wiener-Davis' book "[i]Divorce Remedy[i]." If you don't want a divorce, then start dragging your feet on the process.

Your wife is "being nice" because she thinks she has won and you have surrendered without a fight. That may seem the "easier" path, but it's really not.